horribly shouted at by employer...lost faith in nannying

[pinkdaffodil23]

Hi everyone
Well i didnt think I would find myself asking this but last night changed my outlook completely.
I dont think i want to carry on wiyh nannying, so what do others do when they move on from nannying. I done nursery work before and dont want to go back. I have always wanted to teach or go into working in a childrens hospice, or work with families that really need help, but it all seems so hard to get into. I have my ba honours in early childhood studies degree, and dont really want to do another at the moment.
Up until last night i loved my job and i still do and i dont want to leave the children their like family, but i was treated horrendously last night and dont know how i can really carry on and accept what happened. Would go into it more but dont want to be sussed incase ayone ever sees it.

Thanks for any help and support you can give :)

Sorry to hear someone was so ran to you and made you so upset. Don't make any major changes yet-give it some thought. The careers you fancy all seem very relavent to your quals & experience so why do you think it will be hard for you to find a job in those roles? Can you afford to work part time or with school age kids while you volunteer/re-train? Or take a nanny job with special needs kids?

So mean to you

obv we dont know what happened last night, (feel free to pm if you want) and no one deserves to be shouted at etc, but maybe it was a one off, and rem employers are human as well and make mistakes

could this be resolved if you sit down and chat?

A.First it seems to me that you have been with this family for a reasonable amount of time as you love the job and children and had been happy there this must mean that the mum has not behaved like this before?I would think that hopefully this is a one off but you do have to go in to work on Monday.I would have hoped the mum would be on the phone to you apologising/grovelling to you today.If it was me I don't think I could wait until Monday to talk to her,scary I know, how long have you worked for the family?I would phone her,be brave ,she is totally in the wrong here and I can't believe you did anything to justify her talking to you like this.When she answers say hi shouty boss I just wanted to talk to you about the way you spoke to me yesterday ,she will hopefully grovel and try to backtrack over what she has said.If she does start on you on the phone you know that there is a more serious problem.I should think that with your qualifications you would easily find another job.I have been a nanny for many years,most employers are lovely .I agree with Blondes that she may have just had a terrible day or be worried about something personal..
On your point about a different career I totally agree with Victoria you could ring/ pop into your local hospice to ask about volunteering at weekends,or go onto snap childcare ,see if they have anything in your area you could be interested in ,they have part time jobs as well to let you get some experience,
I hope she has rung you by now.

Poor you.

I've never felt the need to shout at anyone I've been managing at work or an nanny and I unless someone was abusing my children or stealing from me, I can't see how it would be in any way positive either for me or my nanny.

I would see how things go on Monday, your employer might be very, very apologetic, maybe they had some really bad news and took it out on you. If that is the case you need to make it really clear that you will not be shouted at and will walk out if it happens again.

I wouldn't let one bad experience put you off though, especially now you have your degree. There will be lots of nice families who value you more.
Another thing you could consider is running a pre-school. Our pre-school leader is well paid (shorter hours though) and we get an extra grant towards her salary now that she has her degree. Its fairly autonomous and if you work in a more deprived area you may feel like you are making a difference.
Pre-schools tend to be charities, so we tend to advertise vacancies in local papers rather than nursery world (which is hideously expensive).

Inboxed you blondes, sorry its a bit of an essay

You can't let one bad experience put you off a whole career.

If you've been in the job a long time and this is the first time something like this has happened I'd try and take to them on Monday. If it's the latest in a long line of problems, hand you notice in and look for a new nanny job. If you love nannying it would be crazy to give up on it because of one parent.

Hi thanks for the replys. It wasnt a case of just a little moan about something. It was full on for a long time. Cant go into more cause dont want to be sussed

replied,hope makes sense what i wrote :)

and if worried about doing a post on here, next time name change or ask admin to remove now

I too have been shouted at...but I thought they were joking at first as we get on so well...I have a phobia about confrontation so was ...????? But They apologized unreservedly next time we saw each other....bad day etc...And I actually said that if they do it again I am off... Proud of myself and was shaking and had an awful headache...It never happened again. Is it a one off? Is it normally a good relationship?

If you live-in consider doing live-out as you get time away from work.

I hope everything works out for you. Emotional ties with the children make it very hard when the parents are not nice to you. I have stayed in a job because I was so fond of he children and the parents were crap when I really wanted to leave.

Try going into SEN nannying. SNAP childcare has positions with some lovely lovely families. It gets your foot in the door towards doing more in education or hospice as well as you gain so much more experience than with mainstream nannying.

I've come out of nannying due to finding out employers were bitching about my totally normal 2 year old! I'm a paeds nurse so I'm going back to nursing!

Pink daffodil.Can you tell us how it went on Monday when you went into work?

in every nannying job ive had (ft/pt.. li/lo) the employers have always had some kind of over reaction to a non problem.

I understand because it must be hard to see somebody else looking after your dc (think of that moment when your dc hits another dc at the park and the other dc's mum tells your dc off... everything gets a bit )
but it is incredibly frustrating to feel distrusted - sometimes parents forgey they have employed qualified childcarers with a wider breadth of experience than they might even have! (if you were a doctor and a patients relative started trying to tell the doctor how to operate, they would be laughed at!)

try not to worry about it and if you feel you cant work for this family anymore don't write nannying off completely!

and excuse my horrific grammar.... phone woes

Hi everyone sorry didnt update. We met up before work and she apologized for how she had behaved. We have decided to put it behind us and move on. This week has actually been quite pleasent.

I'm glad that she apologised Pink daffodil.Thanks for coming on and telling us.

I'm glad too - she did the right thing.