Just nervous

[TerrariaMum]

I've posted rather sporadically in this topic asking about various things and gotten loads of helpful answers which I appreciate. I keep looking on sites and going round in circles because the truth is I am terrified of employing anybody. I feel like I shouldn't need any help because I am a SAHM (3 under 4, 2 of whom are under 2) and that I'm a failure because I'm struggling. I'm also afraid anyone I employ is going to look down on me because of the SAHM thing.

I'm not sure why I'm posting exactly. I suppose I want to know if anyone else has felt this way and what you did. Any advice from anyone more than welcome.

I am a nanny myself and if I can afford it when the time comes, I will be hiring a nanny for my own children even though I hopefully want to be a SAHM! If you can afford help, get it! No point in being a martyr. If you can have an hour to put your feet up or someone to help with the laundry, you are going to be much more relaxed and rested which will give your children better quality time when you are with them.
1-3 year olds are hard work! You have hard work times 3! You deserve a bit of help. Don't feel bad :)

True, so as a nanny, you wouldn't look down on someone needing help like me then?

I'm worried about that too tbh.

Im a nanny, I worked as a temp nanny for a sahm, the children were aged 8mths, 2yrs; 4yrs and 8yrs.

i completely understood why she needed help and certainly didn't look down on her.

I worked there for 4mths until they found a permanent nanny and my new job started.

Mine are 3 mo, nearly 15 mo and 3.6 yrs.

Thank you, hearing from you is helping a lot.

I only had one DD and still thought it would be nice to have some help occasionally. Anyone worth their salt won't give it a second thought.

Definitely wouldn't look down on you at all, i think if any nanny thought that, they are in the wrong job.
I like to think a lot of my job is about making the parents' lives easier as well as caring for the children. Whether that be letting them have an afternoon nap, giving them time to have a child-free shower or making them dinner for when they get home from work. Whether they are SAHPs or not, every parent needs a break!

Like nannynoss, I too would be hiring a nanny for my own children even if I am a SAHM! I genuinely believe that everybody should have access to one for at least a couple of hours a week if at all possible, just to have some "me-time" and a chance to do things that you need and want to do.

I've worked for SAHMs in the past and I work for one now, the only thing I could ever criticise her for is not spending enough time for herself!

Some nannies are put off by SAHMs, not because they think parents who stay at home should have nannies (if they feel that way they should't be nannies IMO, part of our job is working with a wide range of people in different situations), but because it can be harder to work with a child when the parent is around. There are ways around this and as long as you and the nanny are firm about who is in charge at what time and set your boundaries, it can work well.

Shouldn't have nannies, not should

Thank you everyone. I feel much better about the whole idea now and thanks to your help, I have started to write out a list of what I need.