Jealous of my nanny!!!!!

[Hulan]

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She's only been here for a few days and my son practically leaps out of my arms and into hers!!! I could catch dh in bed with someone and not be jealous but this is driving me to drink

Be pleased he is happy. its something and someone different. your still his mum, he may like 'playing' with her, but you can never be replaced.

anybody?

I have really been looking forward to her coming over so that dh can go back to work and not be childminder anymore. But now that she's here I just want her to go back.

It is hard, but youre LO is HAPPY. things will settle down, dont beat yourself up. he LOVESSSSSSSSS u.

Thank you Carlyp. And he is very happy so maybe I should grow up and not be so selfish

These things go in phases. his reaction will prob die down a bit before too long.
If you need to pay someone to do childcare, this is the best possible situation, believe it or not.
You have to be desperately pragmatic about it or you'll end up being very miserable. And making your nanny miserable too.

I think that I'll come around eventually. I don't think that I realised how tough this whole motherhood thing would be. God help me when he's older and wants to do terrible things like go out without me

LOL! youll be fine.

cx

Have never had a possessive bone in my body up until now

I know, and it is hard, but if you have to or want to work, then you have to 'let go' a bit whilst she is nannying.

cx

I am learning and I will get the hang of it pretty soon I think. Up side is that I can do things now that I've been longing to do since his birth but couldn't do because of what to do with him eg: go watch a movie!! Got any suggestions of what's good at the mo?

Thanks Carly for the advice. Am the only turd in my social group with a kiddo and whole family is overseas. Don't like to talk to my mom about these things because she tends to worry. So it's nice to chat

Hang in there. We all feel bad sometimes. My DD used to scream and run and hide when I showed up at the childminder to pick her up. Felt very unloved. And now that she is 3 when she is having a strop she yells "I don't love you". It's lovely the way they push those buttons, isn't it. I just say okay, that's fine, but it's spinach if brekkie for you. :-)

It's fantastic that your little one is so happy with the nanny - it actually breaks your heart more when they don't. I had childcare once when children clinging to me screaming as I tried to leave for work. I agree with Uwila on the buttons they push - they really have such a knack of making you feel unloved, but believe me, you are the mummy and the most precious thing to them. Try not to be too hard on yourself and feel happy that you are able to be confident your child will be happy to go off and do things when you want to

God it's difficult isn't it?
We want to be the centre of our child's universe but equally want them to be happy when we are not around.

I have struggles with how I would feel about my dd preferring the nanny to me but to be honest I genuinely want dd to be happy and not pining for me all day.

I have the reverse problem at the moment-new nanny,day two and am beating myself up for "putting dd through it".At 17mts she is too young to explain old nanny has gone to uni and I feel dreadful she has just disappeared from her life (well back to visit in 3 weeks.)

It is really hard and why can't it be perfect-great nanny,happy child and yummy mummy who child is delighted to see at all times

Its really really hard as a nanny and a mother I would be devistated if my ds went all amiley to someone else over me . It is a phase and he will soon be grumpy again when you leave . Bless

i'm a c/m and feel so guity when children run to me when they see me, i see the parents face drop
but just be comforted that your child is comfortuble with the nanny how guity would you feel if the nanny was pulling the child off you while he was sceaming