Nanny with her own children - children causing problems

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Can anybody offer me any advice. My nanny has her own children - the youngest is 2 and a half and the eldest is school age. I am finding the situation increasingly difficult to cope with - my nanny's youngest son is quite difficult and screams / cries a lot of the time, he is jealous when the nanny is dealing with my children or speaking to me about work matters - throwing things / hitting my youngest. I accept that a nanny with her own children cannot cook gourmet meals and that there will be some inconviences to overcome but I am finding this a real problem - not least as I work from home and am often distracted by the screaming of her son.
I am so relieved when she does not bring her son to work - but this is rare. Her solution is to take my children and hers out of the house as much as possible but one of the reasons I chose a nanny over nursery is so that I can see more of my own children.

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Hi HMo2- thanks for quick reply. It is tough for her just as much as me I know that. She did try being a childminder but struggled I think as she has not a lot of space at home. The son is not due to start nursery until next Sept...

if thats the case i would give notice to your nanny you might as well use a c/m
the point of a nanny is so your children are cared for in their own home but if the nanny is out and about all the time because of her child then there is no point

I think that if for any reason you are unhappy with your childcare arrangements you should look at alternatives. I had a nanny with child when my ds was little, and that worked well for a while, but when dd came along it was just too complicated, and so we parted ways. It sounds like a bit of a crowd at your place - I am amazed that you can work at home with any children around - I can't do it just with my two

I am quite surprised she is a nanny with two children of her own - previous childminder of mine wanted to go back to nannying when her second was born and every agency she called for advice told her it was not the done thing and that childminding was her only optino. I really think you ought to reconsider if it's causing such a problem and find another nanny. It doesn't necessarily have to be a nanny without child, another nanny with child may be totally different with a child less prone to tantrums

I have to say I wouldn't like anyone giving my child less than a 100% and how can she is her own child is unhappy.