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Nosdar · 30/05/2014 17:27

I'd really appreciate tips on how to manage the end of my DD's childcare placement. At first her time there was very happy but as she got older, and I suspect a bit more challenging (toddlerish) she and her CM seemed not to like each other very much! The CM took babies on and my DD (by now about two and a half) seemed, to me (over protective mum) a bit pushed out. Anyway, my DD is leaving the placement now to start nursery. She is both very happy (everyday for the last nine months she has refused to go, and had to be peeled away from me) and really sad - I think she has felt rejected by the CM and her children who seem to be more interested in the babies.

Things have cooled a bit between me and the CM although we are of course civil. But I want to find a way to acknowledge the happy times DD had there, and the fact that she is moving on to something that hopefully she will like better.

What have others done when their DC have finished their placement? What do CMs do to celebrate a child moving on? My CM has suggested nothing (and in fact gave me notice, landing me in a tricky position, when I told her that I would give her two months notice at least), but that is by the by. My DD has been in her placement for over two years, and whilst it has not been ideal for her of late, it is all she knows apart from home.

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Therewere5inthebed · 30/05/2014 18:34

That is really sad, I'm a childminder and it is really important to ensure existing children are not upset by new arrivals. I find talking to the existing children well before the start date helps, even with little ones, and make sure the other children are included in the baby's care, little things like passing nappies, wipes etc all help. The existing children need to know that they are still cared for, it's just like introducing a baby to an older sibling really.

I always give the child I little gift if they move on, a book with a handwritten message and a group photo of me and the children they play with at the setting, just something to remember us all by.

But we all do things differently and some may not mark the occasion at all.

Nosdar · 31/05/2014 15:07

Thanks for that Therewere5inthebed. It's helpful to hear you say that about new arrivals, makes me feel a bit less unreasonable - our CM never tells me when anything new is happening, new children or pets etc, so I have to work out what is going on from DD, and I always felt that CM should tell me so that I can help to prepare DD or at least recognise why she might be playing up / clingy etc.

Anyway, I will buy a thank you present for DD to give to CM and ask to take a photo on the last day. You have helped me to decide. Thank you!

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