Hello. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Ds 2.5yrs has been attending a cm for two years, since six months old. Childminder is rated highly by ofsted, always full and has lots of experience.
I have been very happy with her, though she has very set views on things, ie behaviour, nap times etc and tends to do things her way rather than agreeing a choice with parents. Recently ds has started speaking more and his behaviour tends to be fairly good for his age compared to some of my friends children, he's quite a shy child and doesn't tantrum much.
Last week when I collected him from cm she had told him off for throwing glitter over the floor, I wasn't there when she told him off but he looked nervous and worried and she said she'd been quite cross when she spoke to him. On the way home he said he'd cried, I have a feeling she's quite controlling.
Today when I collected him he was crying as she'd made him sit at the table and eat all his dinner and not given him fruit for pudding as he'd not eaten his food properly. Cm seemed quite pleased that she'd 'made him finish it eventually' 
I may be bring soft here but I feel making a generally non fussy 2yo sit at the table until they've eaten all their food whilst the other children play is quite unkind and overly strict. I can appreciate cm has to have rules, she has several children, but I've made clear I don't want her to force him to eat but she takes no notice. Ds kept crying in the evening at home and in the night about not liking the food he'd been made to eat.
He's also told me that cm puts his food on a child fork and makes him open his mouth by pushing the food when he refuses to eat. I feel quite upset by all this, my eldest didn't use childcare so I'm not sure if I'm being precious here or is cm is being unkind? I'm tempted to move him to a nursery, but ds is always pleased to see cm at drop off and happily walks into her house, so maybe I'm worrying about nothing?