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nanny vs childminder - thinking of going back full time

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marl · 28/04/2014 19:25

Wondering if any of you can offer me some advice on nannies/childminder options when going back to work full time. Have had ten years managing to keep part-time freelance on a good salary but my career is now stuck. It's clear I'm going to have to bite the bullet and get a full time post to then get on and out the other side to a better and higher quality freelance career. All 3 DCs will be at school from this September. The thought of what to do about childcare feels scary as I've had DP at home on my working half of the week but will now need to get cover for 3 days school run plus after school care. There is a good after school club at the school but it doesn't open early enough for me, and I think DS3 will be too tired when he starts reception to cope with any more. We've not long moved away from my parents so that back up is now also gone. Presumably childminders don't start before 7.30 which is when I would need them from and I think it would be less stressful to try and get a part-time nanny who might hold the fort at home rather than me trying to run about any more than I will already be. Any ideas of what the cost would be for a nanny 3 days a week in Gloucestershire? Does that sound like 'impossible to find' and do 'mother's helps that just do the school run and have the day to themselves' not really exist? I'm guessing that with a job that I can't take odd days off very easily (school holiday restricted) that a childminder who has her own kids who might also get ill themselves, or who can't have mine when mine are ill is a more problematic choice. (Somehow I think when they are younger and in nursery with longer hours it might have been more straightforward!) Any suggestions from any of you that have done any of the above would be really useful. I don't quite know where to start, and whether to get the job first and then the childcare or the other way round which would feel safer!

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CMOTDibbler · 28/04/2014 19:31

My friend has a nanny with her own child who does mornings and then afternoon/evening plus full days in school holidays which suits both of them, esp as the nanny is happy to be flexible in the evenings as her baby will sleep anywhere

EverybodysStressyEyed · 28/04/2014 19:37

I have a nanny housekeeper. During school time she looks after the house. During the holidays she focuses on the kids and just does light housework when she has the time.

I work part time and it is a luxury to have her during school time but it was the only feasible option in order to be able to cover school holidays.

I also wanted the kids coming home after school rather than going to someone else's home.

I had considered an after school nanny (I take kids to school) but the holidays were a big problem. It has all worked out really well and the kids adore her.

marl · 28/04/2014 19:49

Sound good EverybodysStressyEyed. How did you go about finding her? I'll have no problem in the holidays as both myself and DP will be at home, but my issue is the both pre and after school care 3 days a week and like you I want the care at home. This will probably be a situation for 2-3 years and then they will be older and more able to do a longer day at after school club and a morning at a childminders perhaps. I really have no idea where to start. And did you do lots of interviewing people and checking they could cook, for example
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EverybodysStressyEyed · 28/04/2014 20:02

I used an agency and they sent me loads of candidates. Some were not quite right for the role. Some are housekeepers who like kids and other are nannies who don't mind doing housework. We wanted the latter.

We interviewed our nanny and read all her references. The agency had interviewed her personally too.we then introduced the kids and it was clear she had a good rapport with children. We had her on a trial period but it didn't take long to realise she was going to work out well.

marl · 28/04/2014 21:35

Thanks! Agency it is then I think.

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PhoebeMcPeePee · 28/04/2014 22:44

I suspect a cm with 3 children will be more expensive than a nanny which will undoubtedly be the most stress free option. NWOC or maybe someone older looking to reduce hours would be perfect as a nanny/housekeeper is going to want paying during school hours whilst attending to housekeeping duties.

EverybodysStressyEyed · 28/04/2014 22:53

yes - my nanny housekeeper works three 9 hour days.

I need the holiday cover though. if you don't you may be able to get someone as Phoebe says

mum2030 · 28/04/2014 23:18

Having used various nanny type arrangements when we lived in London, we now live in a more rural place and use a childminder. She is great - starts 7.15 if needed, very flexible. Does school holidays. Does not mind having ill children as her children are usually ill at the same time (go to same school as my DCs). She is more reliable than a nanny and because DCs are at her house there is less mess to clear up at my house.

DCs get on well with her kids and can play with their other friends as they live near each other.

Blondeshavemorefun · 28/04/2014 23:56

Once you have 3 children it is much more cost effective to get a nanny rather then cm

Also less stressful as you just need to get yourself up dressed and out of house by 7.30 then 4 of you

If you absolutely can't take time off for sick children etc then it's worth having a nanny there all day/on call for those emergencies - some will do cleaning - others (like me won't)

Obviously this costs and some parents don't want to pay a nanny to do nothing 9/3 - others happily pay as have no choice

May be worth finding a nwoc who is happy / can afford to have 9/3 off and/or holidays

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