I was hoping for some advice/direction about what to do next with our au pair who has been with us since September. This is our 3rd au pair (all have stayed for a year before)- my head told me to choose this au pair as she had previous au pair experience, with a good reference and is 24 so a bit more mature. She is Czech.
My biggest concern is that I just don't think she likes (our) children. Kids are 7,9 and 16. I have come home a few times and she was sitting on the sofa with her hands over her ears in a total non coping type of way, telling me the kids won't do anything she asks and they are being rude about her english (I know she swears at them under her breath in Czech). We have talked about this and strategies for coping, and although things are a bit better I still feel there is no real warmth there. The kids are normal kids, quite smart so can easily spot and take advantage of someone who isn't in control. Is she just not
Due to this feeling, lots of things are starting to irritate me as an an employer and now I can't tell if I'm being unreasonable. I think we are a good host family and I feel our last au pair in particular will always be part of our family. I give paid time off, numerous friend have visited and stayed and the hours are not too onerous