Tell me I'm being ridiculous...

[Emmelou]

Child I nanny for who is nearly 12 offered me a chocolate coin - I said no thankyou - all fine but then her brother asked if he could have one and she said they have been in my bag for months and probably disguisting. Am I wrong to find this disrespectful and a bit rude or am I just being silly. I just feel its not appropriate

Yep, you're being ridiculous!

It's not rude

Are you thinking it's rude because she tried to give you old manky chocolate or because she would not let her brother have it?

Can I ask why you are wondering about it?

Maybe she was happy to share with you, but not him? Or maybe she was trying to offload them onto you

Maybe she didn't want him to have one & was trying to put HIM off?

It was old chocolate and she would not let her brother eat it for that reason which is why I though rude to offer to me. But yes know I'm being silly :)

Chocolate coins only tend to appear over Christmas don't they (if that's crap please tell me where I can get some)so unless it's one from 2012 Christmas then it's likely to be edible still

I'm sure it was edible - it was more that it was offered to me on the basis that it was probably disgusting as has been in her bag which she did not say at the time only when her brother asked for it and she did not want to eat it either for that reason. Realise she might have just wanted me to try before she did. Not sure whether coins are around now

I think if I was paying a nanny to care for my kids I would expect her/him to be able to deal with this situation without seeking advice. To be brutally honest.

Ask her? Can't you joke with her about this? I think a nanny should be on intimate enough terms with a 12 year old to ask her if she is trying to feed you something disgusting, and have either a laugh or a raised eyebrow.

Sorry I didn't explain myself very well and that was lighthearted moaning rather then seeking advice as such. It was already dealt with - I told her it wasn't very nice to offer me chocolate that she didn't want her brother to have as disgusting) It would only be a problem if indicative of something else (ie child not happy with/annoyed with me) but even nannies are allowed days of sensitivity as long as doesn't effect kids