How much would you pay an ap?

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Just looking into it, how much would you pay them if you were paying food, providing a car, their own room.

Light household duties, some school pick ups and drop offs but not every day.

We are on the south coast (if that makes a difference)

Tia

Usually it's around £75 for 25 hours.

An AP should always be provided with a room and board so that is irrelevant. Ignore as for live out au pairs,they are people trying to get cheap childcare. The point of APS is that they are a member of the family.

Are you in a desirable city? That factors into costs. If you are in the middle of nowhere you could find yourself paying a bit more.

au pairs would always get food.and a room...

What hours are they doing?
What kind of housework?
How old are the children and how many.of them?

Its normally around £80, anything less is unfair I think

£95 I think.

A bit of cleaning, washing and ironing that sort of thing.

Maybe making tea etc

Two children, 5 and 8

I thought an au pair was supposed to be a member of the family and help with a little childcare. The household chores involved should only be that that is contribution to the household together. Ie if you do ironing, they do some, but they shouldn't be the sole person doing it in replacement.

So they help with generally day to day tidying whilst caring for children ie load dishwasher with breakfast bowls etc, wipe down after painting with them but shouldn't be doing the chores so you don't have to

If you need them done you need a cleaner tbh, either only a cleaner or a cleaner who cleans and an au pair who does what she's there for

An au pair is there as a member of the family, but they still do chores so you don't have to - otherwise what would be the point of having them there?

My AP does 1 hours ironing, not more than 3 hours cleaning per week, takes DD to and from school and is in the house all night on 3 days per week. I pay £75 per week, supply a car, a smartphone and £10 top up per month.

Lily - the point is they help with small things in exchange for board/ ' pocket money' and learning English.
Many people have them to cover the odd few hours after school with children age children ie 3-5.30pm. Some so their children get exposed to another language, some to take one child to park whilst parent takes another child to a class etc etc

I'm sorry but if someone needs actual childcare they need a nanny/ childminder/ nursery. If they want cleaning a cleaner.

They help with about 25 hours a week of childcare and housework. There's no reason why a sensible young adult with a bit of experience can't do a few hours before/after-school childcare and some light housework.

I don't know of anyone who has had an au pair who hasn't needed childcare and household help

Of course they help. That's the point. They don't just do it instead of you.

So they might put in a load of washing, or iron children's school shirts. But they shouldn't be expected to do all of the washing and ironing so you don't have to

Why on earth wouldn't they do it instead of you? If you don't need someone to do it instead of you, what would be the point?

Because they aren't your slave! Supposed I be treated as family member etc... In my family we share work load not dump it on one person

Surely if someone living with you is picking your child up from school, helping with homework, reading to them, playing, prepping dinner, unloading dishwasher, babysitting one eve etc they are already helping a lot? For a grand total of £10 ish a day I think that's a fair amount of help.

Maybe it's just me, but I couldn't let someone not being properly paid for it so my chores so I don't have to. And I do have a cleaner myself, but I pay her £15 per hr

I'm not sure that 25 hours a week childcare and housework for room, board and pocket money is "slavery".

Artando - au pairs do cleaning too. There's a list on the British au pairs web site of recommended tasks that an au pair should do.

There's no point two people doing one thing!

In our area - SE just outside London the going pocket money is £100. We also give our Au pair a rail pass, gym and a car and she has a separate flat too - so not too hard done by....

au pairs tend to do 25 hours of WORK a week in exchange for board, food and pay. £80-£120 a week is standard.

This work can include childcare or general housework.

The housework could be basic cleaning, nothing extreme.

They are not there to be paid to be a normal house member!

would you give a family member £100 a week pocket money?

they should be treated like a family member in such that they are treated with respect, affection and to feel comfortable in the house as if it were their own

not imo the job description of a slave

I think I see what Art is getting at. It's fine to ask an au pair to do some cleaning, but this doesn't mean that everyone else in the house is no longer responsible for doing that job as well.

For example, fine to ask the au pair to empty the bin, not ok for no-one else to ever empty the bin again so she comes in on a Monday/ in the morning to find you've filled it to overflowing.

Fine to ask the au pair to clean the bathroom, but everyone else still needs to wipe it down after themselves etc.

Fine to ask the au pair to do the hoovering, not ok to let the kids have a weekend of moonsand and glitter and leave it for the au pair to deal with on Monday.

The au pair is there to chip in and be an extra pair of hands NOT to run the household/be a housekeeper.

Agree with objection. My aupairs always do housework, I am very clear that it's a part of the role. I still wipe, tidy, fold, empty the dishwasher,strip the beds, DustBuster the floor etc but part of her role is to do a proper clean for 3 hours once a week. I see no issue with that. She also does the ironing, I do bits that she hasn't had time for but doing an hours ironing once a week is part of her job and ensures that DH has work shirts which don't look like he has picked them out of his bottom. Picking up from school three times a week at 3pm and being in charge for 3 hours whilst heating up dinner I have pre-cooked does not account to a 25 hour a week job so it's perfectly reasonable to ask her to do cleaning and ironing as well as generally helping in the house. In total she probably does about 20 hours a week and I pay her £120 a week. I would hardly call that slave later and I doubt she would as she has been living with us for the last 2.5 years and is very much a member of our family who we all love.