nwoc?

[BridgetJonesStoleMyPants]

If you are a nwoc, how fo your employers treat your own dc?

I'm curious.

mine is mostly ignored- not in a cold way, but never included if a parent instigates a game for example.

charge is often offered food infront of mine- but not offered to mine, makes for a very awkward situation.

charge behaves awfully in parents presence- in fact im surprised how different a child they are (rude..aggressive and wingy when parent there..placid, happy and well bbehaved with me) - but if a situation arises. charge can do no wrong and my dc seems to be ' the problem' as it were.

I've been brushing it off mostly but im feeling a bit sad now. Im pleased I get to take dc with me- but I don't like how they are made to feel. Parents have said they are really happy with me/us/the whole arrangement. Im just a bit
Boss is at home 4 out of 5 days i work.

Your employers sound like knobs to be honest. Our nanny brings her dd to work with her and I wouldn't dream of excluding her from anything. Throughout half term I will be paying for her to do activities alongside my dcs, they all eat the same food. Her dd and mine are like sisters ( their birthdays are a week apart) I'm not usually around much when our nanny's working, but when I have if our nanny is busy doing something (laundry or something) I would certainly include both girls in any activity we were doing.

Its so odd- they seem to be lovely people otherwise and this isn't a new position so would hope I'm not missing anything major lol

I just don't understand. Its really upsetting me- but isn't somthing I can bring up with them because I don't like awkward conversations anyway since at the end of the day dc is mine and not theres.. but I just find it strange. somthing happened a few weeks ago, which would be identifiable I think, so can't share. It was minor- but spoke volumes and was a real light bulb moment for me iykwim. now its all I can think of and I actually don't want to go in tomorrow now.

The children are very very close- its really lovely. my dc loves him lots and they are fiercely loyal to one another.

I went back to work when my son was 8 weeks old, my charges were 7 and 5 at the time. I now have a dd so do a couple of days a week in holiday time, my charges are 13 (sn) and 11 now. All the children get treated equally by my bosses, (so much so that my dc call my bosses mum and dad, well that's what my charges call them so that's there names!) I admittedly spend more time with my charges doing what they want when I am working and are arrangement works very well, I secretly think my female boss misses the snuggles and story time that her two have grown out of but my two love :)

If they are so unfair to your child then maybe it's time to move on.The children are so good to caring about each other,my DC and my charge are super sweet babbling to each other,like a little romance every morning.But I admit bosses don't get too involved.

We have Nwoc and I would say we treat the children equally. A present and cake on her birthday. I also say hello to both and tell Nanny to treat them as siblings ie equal priority when planning activities or like siblings.
I buy special food that her DD likes on our grocery shop and make sure she feels welcome in our house e.g. a few playmates before the Nwoc job started.
It doesn't sound like your boss is very kind to your child.

How horrible for you! Please don't put your child through this
They are being treated as second class, not good enough. It will do untold harm to their self-esteem.

If you can't bring it up with your employer, then either it's time to move on, or you need to find someone to look after your child while you're working - someone who does value them. I would personally do the former. I also think it's telling how the other child behaves around the parent.

It may well be working for your employer but it's not working out well for your child.

I agree with Tanith I'm sorry but no way would I put up with that.

I took my DS to work with me and my bosses loved him, he was there little smiler (MB also loved and missed baby snuggles)

Children should always come first and be treated equally in their own right!
I worked as a NWOC and found that only the families who had known me previously to having my DD treated her equally to any other child. I found it so ironic though because one of the first questions a parent usually asked was 'how are you going to be able to look after your child and my child together - will you favour your child and give them more attention?'
When in actual fact it has always been the other way round!

If you are feeling like this I would advise you to look for another job where you and your child will be happy and appreciated by your bosses. In the end I knew NWOC jobs were not for me and became a CM instead. Much happier now as parents come to you looking for Childcare, knowing you have your own child and are much more accepting of this.