Childminder shouting

[hongkong]

Hi, just found out that my childminder really shouted at my 7 year old outside school this afternoon for being the last one out. Apparently my child was quite upset but is unwilling to talk to me about it. What do I do and was she out of order?

I think you have to ask him she shouted at him and then ask her and make your mind up after that .

Who told you about it?

A neighbour. She popped round to check child okay as apparently crumpled. Unfortunately child has learning difficulties and can't express herself or remember half the time what's happened.

So - crumpled and child has SN, this does sound serious to me TBH. Instinctivly I would say that any CM shouting at a child is out of order, but espec one that can't express properly.

My gut reaction is to say that if this is what they are like in public.....

What's TBH? Gut feeling is what's behind closed doors too. Will have to have a good think about how to go about this tomorrow.

I have a 7 year old and surely its not on for her to shout at him like that ,do you get on with her ok .

T B H to be honest .

As a childminder myself I really don't think that this is on. I do occasionally need to raise my voice, but that's very different from 'shouting at' a child for something that is likely beyond their control (like being the last one out).

Two of my sons are on the autistic spectrum - they were always the last ones out (ds2 gets very easily sidetracked - so it wasn't on purpose, he just struggles to remember what he's supposed to be doing if he has a number of different things to think about).

I would be far from happy for anyone to shout at my children for something like this.

I've only started minding this week and i collect three from the same school, two are out pretty much straight away and we seem to wait forever for the third! Today he was 20 minutes late! I don't know what takes him so long, but TBH, does it really matter that much? At the end of the day, we childminders are paid to look after the kids, we claim from school 'kicking out time', so if it means we have to wait in the playground a few minutes for a mindee who takes their time, so be it! Maybe hongkong, your 7 year old was the last one out because of your CM! I agree with securmummy on this, if she can shout at a mindee in public like that, what is she treating them like behind closed doors? And why is your child so reluctant to talk about it? That, in itself is very worrying.

I would definately persue it.

Hope you sort it out.

If you don't know how to approach the subject with your CM, or fear it could cause problems for your child, you could try contacting The national Childminding Association (NCMA). They run a FREE phone advice line where your call is taken in the strictest of confidence.
Your other option, of course, is OFSTED, but only if you cannot resolve the problem with your CM. When you signed your contracts, she should have given you information on complaints. This is an OFSTED requirement.

Hong Kong, how are things? I hope you have managed to make some sense from all of this?

SMxx

Thanks for all your advice - sorry computer went down! Sat down and spoken to both of my children. Both said didn't shout as much as I did!!!! Both still very happy to go to childminder even though gave them another option. I will keep an eye on the situation though.