We got a new aupair about 5 weeks ago. She seemed/is lovely and came with great refs/experience. We wanted live in but she asked would we mind if she lived out as i only needed afternoon care. This was no problem.
She is a quiet girl but the kids liked her and she seemed to be getting on fine. There was a few little issues regarding discipline (or lack of!) plus a few other little niggly things but as the boys liked her and i felt they were safe in her care i said i would just say it to her and hopefully things would improve.
Anyway, yesterday i was at work all day and had to head to an event after so dp took over from aupair at 5:30. I didnt get home until 11:30 and went straight to bed. On my bedside locker was an empty bottle of calpol..i had only given ds (4) some the previous night so i knew there was at least 50 mls left in the bottle. I asked dp and he knew nothing, said ds was fine going to bed. So i woke him and when he was fully alert i asked him where the calpol was and he said he drank it. I asked him when and he said it was when he was changing after school so about 2pm.
He seemed fine but i rang ooh anyway. they rang poisin control for me and they recommended he head in to A&E as he would need a paracetamol level test plus a liver and kidney function test.
So i got a taxi in with him, i wasnt too worried as i knew it wasnt a full bottle and i knew it had been so long since it happened. I did wonder why he hadnt told our AP as i know ds and I know that when he does anything wrong he always tells on himself! If he drew on wall when he was younger he would come straight to me and tell me, etc.
so we got to hospital and the triage nurse was asking us questions when i said 'he was with his minder at the time but she obviously never saw him' and ds pipes up that she had in fact seen him. i just brushed it off and he was seen, he had to have an IV and we waited there until 4:30 am whe they told us that ds tests were fine and we could go home.
We were n the taxi on the way home and i asked ds what exactly hppened and he said he was changing when he found calpol and he eventually got it open and he drank some then ds2 came up and they shared the rest. I said where was AP and he said, she came in and saw him but he had already drank it all, so she took it off him and put it back in my room!!
I thought, this couldnt be right. i mean she is a 32 year old woman with 5 years childcare exp!! so this morning i took ds2 (3) and asked him what happened and he told me the exact same thing. I dont doubt they are lying as there was a lot of detail in both their stories.
Im shocked the ap never said anything to us. If he had of collapsed we would have had no notion what was wrong with him. Thank god, nothing was wrong with him but if it had of been they wouldnt have been able to treat him as the nurse told me after an hour or so they cant do anything.
We are going to let her go, i just think this shows complete incompetence. AIBU or should we just give her warning?? My gut is saying lt her go but i dont know if a warning would suffice.
I have tried ringing her today but there is no answer, which is unusual for her so i wonder is she scared and knows she did wrong.
Sorry for the essay just didnt want to dripfeed!