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[TwoCrazyKids]

We have a child minder that comes to our home. We have two boys aged 3 & 4. She just has to 1 from Montessori at 12:30 and the other from school at 1:40 then three days a week I'm home by 2:30 and the other two days I'm home at 5:30.

Everyday when I get in, she just reels off all the negative things the boys have done. Fair enough if they have done something really bold but she will tell me of every single argument they have!

I'm just sick of it. I always give out to the boys about it but i just feel children are going to fight and there is going to be naughty incidences. I don't need to hear of ever single one..I don't know how to handle it without seeming like I don't care.

I have told her how we discipline and I fully support her doing time out/withdrawing toys/outings etc but I just feel unless it's earth shattering, do I really need to hear of every last thing?!

Aibu?? Is this the norm?

The boys can be hard work But normally the threat of timeout or distraction is enough to sort them out.

Also not to drip feed but there are other little issues like not feeding them lunch straight from school then they aren't hungry for dinner/not using initiative with food/activities .nothing earth shattering but just to state that things aren't perfect otherwise. Oh and she's been minding then for about a month.

She is a nanny not a child minder as you employ her.

Have you told her that you don't want feedback on every little thing?

not normal- I would get rid. she doesn't sound like she is suited to childcare tbh.

Is she qualified? Does she have much experience/good references?

I'm not in uk. We don't call them nannies here

No not out straight but I have said to her that these things are going to happen every day and this is how we deal with it.

Should I just come out and say it straight? I don't want to seem like I don't care. Of course I encourage good behaviour from the boys but I just don't want to be coming into this every day!

No she is not qualified. She had 5 years childcare experience minding an only child. She got a glowing reference from previous family.

But she minded and only child so is prob not used to sibling rivalry/fighting.

Just tell her outright that you do not need a full commentary of everything that has happened during the day.

Do you use a diary system to write comments in, such as important things to remember for school, party invites, reminder to change the bedding? Maybe they could use the daily diary to note down anything they consider needs to be brought to your attention, you can then read it at your leisure.

That's a great idea cindy34 I will try that tomorrow :) we don't have a book.