CM Club - Potty Training

[saltire]

I have two mindees that are being potty trained. I posted on the potty training thread about one of them, he had a fear of the potty. We've got over that now, he wee'd four times in the potty yesterday, without being prompted!, he's had a few accidents as well though. his mum still sends pull-up swhich are handy for going to school in.
However, the wee girl i mind, she's just turned 2, her mum wants no nappies at all, just pants and trousers. She hasn't even packed any. The problem is the child hasn't quite got the hang of it. it's now 8.25 and she is on her thrid pair of trousers - no way is she going to stay dry all the way to school and back! I did ask the mum if i could let her run around the house with no pants or trousers on, and then she would maybe get to the potty quicker, but she said she wants her to wear trousers and pants as she needs to get used to them
I think the mum is being unreasonable about the nappy situation, especially since i am doing the potty training with 2 of them. My carpet is full of wet patches where she has wee'd. We hardly moved from the house yesterday, in case she wet.Just wondered what anyone else thought, am i being petty, or is the mum being a bit inflexible

Is the wee girl showing any other signs of readiness? I would give her a book or print out of signs (some parents take it more seriously from a book) that children need to display before they are ready for training. Talk about the needs of keeping good hygeine for the sake of the other children that you take care of and try to work together to find solutions that she and you are both comfortable with.

It is better in the long run as well as child protection so i have been told that the child keep her trousers/pants on. Having sadi that do you think she is ready. When i done my son he was wet almost all day and kept making puddles till day 3 then he got it and doesnt often wet. It isnt nice to have urine on your carpets though. Have you gone through with the mum about readiness?

I hardly used pull ups only on verylong motorway journeys and i found them good them otherwise they can rely on them and thus take longer.

When i was minding I had this it went on for months and months then he just got it because suprise suprise he was then ready.
Mum wouldnt budge if we ever went anywhere on the bus mum would meet me there or on day trips take the day off rather than bring him.

This I believe is really unfare on you.She really should allow you to give your opinion and its not nice in your home.Does the mum allow her dd to wee all dy on her carpet?If it continues it will probably begin to smell,no matter how much you clean it.You need to be polite but assertive and say that its not ideal for it to be done this way.
Do you walk to school?
If you go in the car what about the car seat?
Its also not a very fun and encouraging way for the child to learn.Surely the mum can see that.
If its a walk to school it wont be fare the her to be seen with wet trousers by school age children!Although they prob wouldnt notice.Its not really right.

I think the only-just-2-year-old is no way ready! Luckily, whenever I've got to the dreaded toilet-training stuff, it's been something both the parents and I have agreed upon. I certainly wouldn't put up with puddles of wee all over the carpet (and furniture, and car seats??!)

I do think that the mum is being somewhat inflexible, and I think you need to tell her. I am totally not-assertive though, so can't advise on how you do that!