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am i being pfb? how to find and vet a babysitter..

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utopian99 · 16/09/2013 00:43

That's the question really - how can you tell anything about them, if you don't have word of mouth?

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nannynick · 16/09/2013 07:16

Advertise and see what you get.
Many people who do babysitting are nursery, pre-school, nannies, playworkers so are caring for children as their job. Ask for a reference - someone you can phone. Also you could ask to see any training certificates they may have, written references. Get a feel for who they are.

Invite them over to meet you and your child, see how they interact with your child. Trust your gut instincts.

Sites like www.childcare.co.uk can be useful to find local people. Advert in village shop can work.

NomDeClavier · 16/09/2013 07:21

I would approach it the same way as recruiting a nanny. You can either go through an agency or look on the Internet for sitters local to you.

If you have any form of childcare, or have used one you were happy with in the past, it might be worth contacting them to see if they'll babysit. Sometimes nursery nurses aren't allowed to babysit under their contracts and CMs don't want to but it's worth a shot. Alternatively friends with nannies or APs may not object to you offering a bit of babysitting.

You then meet them in person, check their ID, DBS check, first aid, any qualifications, ask for references. Call those references to check they're not just the babysitter's mates and ask them questions like 'how would x cope in an emergency?'.

A trial where they come and meet the children one evening, with you having easily cancellable plans to go out, is well worth it if you can afford it.

If it's not someone I know then I prefer someone who works in childcare already because they'll be used to all the checks and questions and have their ducks in a row. They also usually have a reassuring level of experience and given that you're entrusting your children, house and everything in it to them while you're out you need as much reassurance as you can get.

Alternatively you may find by looking round that someone you know babysits but you just never heard about it!

Good luck :)

3birthdaybunnies · 16/09/2013 07:32

We just swop between friends with children of same age, so child is used to other parent and is free! Obviously have to be careful who your friends are.

DeeBeee · 16/09/2013 21:36

Great timing Utopian, was just about to post the same question :)

We are considering using a babysitter for the 1st time for 17 month old DS - he would be asleep when we leave so nothing for the sitter to do other than...sit :)

I found some good adverts on a local mumsnet-type site, however I am not sure what the 'etiquette' is - ie do I ask them to come over for an interview, do I pay them for that time??? Or just talk to them on the phone? Also, regarding references - yes I can call them but it's hard to ascertain for sure that they are not the sitter's mates. Guess I am very aware I am letting this person into my home and leaving my child with them. Have any of you found sitters through a local site and just gone with them or is it really much better to go through an agency (and pay the overhead)

grateful for any replies to OP - this is unchartered territory for us too...

NomDeClavier · 17/09/2013 07:40

Double check facts like children's ages to make sure they're not just their mates, unless they're a parent themselves with parent friends. Ask the sitter what times they usually sat, what they had to do, whether there were any tricky situations and double check that with the family in question. Another good question is to ask the family how they found the sitter. This is also where having someone who already works in childcare is a good precaution as they should be able to give their workplace or a colleague as a reference and show that their DBS check is for that job.

Interviews aren't usually paid. I would always meet someone in person unless its an emergency so you can see ID and the checks etc.

utopian99 · 17/09/2013 08:06

Thanks, am going to write myself a list of all these tips! Not an emergency so have time to vet and have a number for someone for when they're needed as often my mother can help.

We're about to move so won't immediately have friends in the area but hopefully..

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utopian99 · 24/09/2013 09:01

Right - off on the hunt.. Just a last quick query - could anyone recommend a place to look/ person to ask near Woking?

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ModeratelyObvious · 24/09/2013 12:53

OP try posting here re Woking.

local.mumsnet.com/Talk/surrey/local-active

ModeratelyObvious · 24/09/2013 12:53

local.mumsnet.com/Talk/surrey/local-active

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