Au pairs and nighttime curfews?

[Sticki]

If you have an au pair how to you manage the time they need to be home after going out? Weekends and week time?

We have a new au pair who is making friends with other au pairs locally, which is great. However, im a very light sleeper (as are the DC) and i dont want to be woken up regularly/or be worried about her coming back in the small hours and then have to get up early (and she can lie in at the weekend).

We don't live in London and are quite rural - no street lights or pavements. - Although close to a large town. I have previously discussed with her about getting taxis home when late, and she seems ok with it.

Thanks

I am a live in nanny and have no curfew weeknights or at the weekend. in my last job i did and it was worst than being a teenager (being an adult and expected to be home by 11) my boss and i agreed that as long as I was ready for work in the am then i could be as late back as 7am Mb is a light sleeper and we have creaky stairs but it all works ok. i tend to go straight to bed instead of having a shower/cuppa etc to minimise the noise/activity in the early hours.

we never had a curfew but our hand book did say it shouldn't affect their ability to get up in the morning for work, on one occasion it did and I pointed that out - didn't happen again. They weren't allowed friends around after 11pm unless cleared with us first and noise was to be kept down once kids had gone to bed. If they were still out when we went to bed then we left the outside light on and they had to be responsible to lock up. I was never woken but on a few occasions DH was by loud stomping down the passage to the house - he just said to them in the morning not to do it again please and all was ok. Also figured it was give and take - sure I/kids woke them from lie in far more than once.

There should be no curfew.

They need to be up in the morning and not hungover/sick (on a work day).

They need to be quiet when they come in.

providing ap is fit and up for work and quiet when comes in , you cant tell her what time to come in

if she isnt up in time etc then you can have a chat and make it clear if she goes out she must be up at start time and be ready for work

being quiet when coming in is just good manners :)

I think having a curfew is a bit ridiculous!
They are adults!
If you are a light sleeper don't have someone come and curve in your house.

(and she can lie in at the weekend)

You know we can hear you at the weekends - so although I don't have to get up with my charges at the weekend - if I come in at 4am I am still met with shrieking and high antics outside my bedroom door from 7am.

So yes she gets a lie in but it's not as luxurious as you imagine

I couldn't care less if my au pairs / nannies want to party all night long so long as they show up on time and fit for work.

I think if she is considerate and makes reasonable effort to come in quietly then that is fair.

Out of curiosity are you paying for these taxi rides home? That sounds a pretty hefty expense o an au pair salary.

I never had curfew for our au pairs and didn't even discuss waking up on time. That goes without saying.

Lie-in on weekend is not really lie-in with children in the house. Whether she is light sleeper or not children make it impossible to sleep late.