What would you expect a nanny to do? (Dc aged 2.5 and 0.9)

[BeenieBaby]

DH thinks my expectations are too low and I jut want some perspective.

My nanny (part time) looks after both dc and takes them out to the playground/ playgroups etc. DS (2.5) doesn't nap and dd (0.9) will take a couple of 30 min naps during the day. There's usually food already prepared for the dc but if I ask, she will do a simple meal (e.g pasta). She will tidy up before she leaves in the evening and put away toys. But that's it.

Once DS starts nursery in a few months, her role will extend to doing more housework (kids laundry / emptying dishwasher / quick Hoover of living and kitchen area). Are my expectations too low? DH thinks she should be doing more housework at the moment. Personally I struggle to get much done when home with them as dd is a leech and impossible to put down most of the time and am just happy with how she interacts with both dc.

Some perspective please?

sounds about right to me save for the cooking - she can pull something a little better than pasta out of the hat while dd sleeps and DS does some colouring / lego at the kitchen table, surely? with nursery time, she can get going on some batch cooking.
Would maybe add changing the children's beds & remaking them, washing their linen. Keeping their rooms and toys tidy. DO they have their own bathroom? leaving it tidy after they've bathed.
On top of that, possibly the occasional stuff like errands - nip into dry cleaner if it's close to the playgroup for eg.
As the DC get older, there's more time for extra housework (& then it's a nanny / housekeeper job and not all nannies will want it) but not while they're so little & full on (unless you're saying she isn't doing any of their laundry now? that she should be on top of)

wow i think you are so right she is employed as a nanny not a housekeeper.maybe you should leave your husband in charge of kids for a week, he will see how much he can get done.when i was a nanny if the kids slept i did some ironing but you cant iron with young ones running around.

Maybe add changing beds, and possibly a little more cooking. But it sounds about right to me. If she's doing good job with kids and their happy I wouldn't rock the boat. Agree as they get older she'll have more time, but right now your children are young and I'd rather her focus on them, then doing housework.

Did you employ her as a nanny or nanny/hk or cleaner?

As a nanny she should really manage to do basic nursery duties ie their washing and ironing - change beds and cook meals

Other tasks you mention / I'm happy to do dishwasher , although not every day - and assume you don't have a cleaner if you want her to do hoovering

Maybe you dh can help you more and do some
Housework - do a task daily

Hoover
Dust
Change beds
Clean bathroom
Clean kitchen

Etc etc

Also has dh ever had both dc alone - let's are what he manages to get done :)

With the washing we don't separate kids and our washing so unfortunately that duty would extend to general household washing which is a fair amount (on load every day or alternate days).

At the moment both dc are in our room so making their beds is not a job to be done (they have beds but refuse to sleep there, whole different issue!)

And with the hovering, dd insists on self feeding and there is usually a huge mess afterwards. We have a cordless lightweight Hoover and its just a couple of minutes to Hoover the kitchen/ living space. I usually end up doing it a couple of times a day!

DH struggles with both dc by himself but thinks somewhere out there a supernanny exists who can clean up and provide great childcare! I'm not so sure...

I wouldn't do family washing but if you popped it in the machine in the evening or first thing in the morning, I would hang it out/pop it in the dryer, fold it and iron the children's bits.

I have nannied for 4 children under two (separate families) and multiple sets of twins, all babies at the start of my employment, I have still managed to do

Children's beds weekly
Dust bedrooms twice weekly (although most had cleaners and they would Hoover.)
Wash and iron children's clothes.
Batch cook for freezer. And cook meals.
Sort playroom/toys weekly (with the help of charges once older)
disinfect baby toys weekly and monthly when children are older (including bath toys)
Sweep and mop kitchen floor as and when needed.
Hoover playroom/sitting room as and when needed.
Empty/load dishwasher when needed.
Clean the cooker when I could not bear the burning smell any longer!!
Family food shop.
Take bottles to recycling.
Run errands for employers. Dry cleaners, Boots/health food shop.
I'm sure there are more.

But....I would get the children helping with a lot of it as they get older, from about a year. All my charges would strip their beds, put things in/empty dishwasher (not glass or sharp knives!) load/empty the washing machine and tumble dryer. Help with food shopping. Dropping bottles into bottle bank (making sure there was no broken glass or chance of glass flying around, they love smashing sounds!) Dust with me. Sweep when I was hoovering. Make a game of it all! And most of all, don't expect her to have it all done all the time, sometimes there are just not enough hours in the day.

Also, I refuse to have all of these duties in my contract, if my bosses are good to me and appreciative, then I am happy to do them. If they expect me to do them and get grumpy if I don't or don't do their fair share, then I won't do them at all, except nursery duties. It's give and take.

You need to let your dh have the kids and do all the housekeeping he expects the nanny to do for a couple of weeks. Until he's actually tried it his opinion is worthless really!!

Easy enough to separate washing but as like callaird I'm
Happy to hang out/put in tumble dryer if you have out washing on

Def not stripping / making employers bed - did it once in a temp job and was the remains of sex/condom and mb on period and I've never recovered

Maybe you need to sort out the sleep issue - but that's up to you :)

Can you justify a cleaner to help you if you /dh cant manage?

Sounds okay to me. I do quite a lot of household jobs around the house but they aren't expected, I just do them. The ones that are expected of me are:
Redo kids beds each week
Keep areas tidy/give kitchen a wipe

What I do without being asked when the children are otherwise preoccupied or it needs doing:
Load/unload dishwasher
Clean the kitchen
Sweep/hoover
Sort the playroom
Groceries (usually when charge is asleep, MBoss writes list and I go)
Run errands
Batch cook
Etc. Just household tasks that I cannot ignore. I can ignore some messiness but not a huge amount

Also, if he expects her to do so much housework, when is she allowed to sit down with her feet up for five minutes? I cherish my five minutes with a cuppa at work whilst the little one is starting to doze off (MB bfs her to sleep) or when my older three are just sitting down to their lunch!

Blimey, there are families where children's beds are changed twice a week?

Bumps: I do my charges every 2 weeks if that makes you feel any better? My own however, I will not comment on!

If mine are every three weeks that is very very good. They never seem to be smelly?

Obv I give them an airing and a shake each day and if DS dribbles everywhere i do change his bottom sheet so he is not sleeping on a crusty sheet!

'Shudders at unchanged beds'

Always change kids weekly - sometimes more if bottom cot sheet needs it if has a cold etc

I also change my own bed weekly - very anal about it - always on a Friday so Can have a lie in on a Saturday in a clean bed :)