NWOC - paying for days out etc?

[Jacksterbear]

If you have a nanny with own child, do you expect to pay for her plus her child, when they go on days out etc? Or would you just pay for her, but not her child? (Assuming they are going on outings that are fun/beneficial for all the children, i.e. her child is not being dragged somewhere purely for your dcs' benefit.)

I don't mind paying for them both, if that's the done/expected thing. Just wanted to check what others do.

I am a nanny with baby who I hope to be able to take to work with me. If it was somewhere the parents wanted me to take their children then I would either find childcare for my son or ask them to pay for us both, but if it was a day out I wanted to do for all the children then I would pay for my son and half mine too, the same if we are going to classes.

Also if we were buying food there I would use kitty money for everyone, But then I would by them all say ice cream myself.

Hope that helps

I took my DS to work with me. My mum boss generally let me organise classes and outings as I wanted. My mum boss always paid for me and would have paid for my DS too but I felt that was taking the mick a bit tbh although as he was only a baby, he got in free to most things. I paid for one toddler group and they paid for the other. I took the children to music class and paid for DS. Mum boss paid the entrance for farm parks etc but I'd pay for ice cream for example. In my view it's all swings and roundabouts. I was very lucky to be able to take DS to work and I never took advantage of that.

Thanks for your replies eeyore and Ebb.

I'm a nanny and I take my little girl with me. I pay for my own child for days out and classes etc.
I plan all our activities, and so only really do stuff that suits both children. If my boss wanted her child to do an activity that wasn't suitable for my child, I'd arrange alternative care for my child that day. For toddler groups and stuff, I pay for one, boss pays for other. I would never expect my boss to pay for my child, that's my job. However, the only exception would be if boss wanted lots of very expensive outings that I couldn't afford, in this case I'd ask that boss pays for me and my child, or that we found cheaper alternative. ( i'm talking about expensive theme parks, zoo etc) But for the general daily stuff; toddlers, music, soft play, swimming, I'd always pay for my lo. But I'd always expect boss to pay for me.
With memberships, my boss bought one for zoo, and I bought one for a farm. It's about give and take. I feel so lucky to be able to bring my child with me to work, that I'd never take advantage. My child benefits hugely from all the activities we do, I fully expect to have to contribute towards payment.
If you decide to pay for your nannies child, I think your being very generous and a lovely employer; she's lucky to work for you.

I wouldn't expect parents to pay for entrance unless there was a specific expensive activity that parents insisted on where you had to pay for each child eg going to the zoo. Seems to me that if you are NWOC this has to be expected.

You pay for the nannies entrance and your children and she pays for her child

Thanks all for the replies - it's interesting to see the general consensus!

hmm.

I take dd with me, aside from food for meal times shared with my charge(s) I always pay for my daughter, share any discounts I get as a 2nd child evenly between us, and would not use kitty money towards anything my daughter needs.

we occasionally use a nappy if I don't have any to hand but then equally wouldn't think twice about putting charge on one of ours for the same reason.

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I have a nanny and I would expect her to pay for her own child (if she had one) on any days out, activities etc. In the same way that i would expect her to pay for any food her child needed.

Even if the activity was for my own children's benefit I would expect her to pay or find cover for her child.

My nanny has been with us for 2 years and if she had a baby and came back to work i wouldn't expect her schedule to change, other than the fact she had an extra child. You pay them to look after and entertain your children. I would discuss what activities i wanted my children to do and make her aware that i would pay for her (as normal) but that it would be up to her to cover her childs costs.

Childcare is expensive enough as it is without paying for children that arent yours.

I don't think an employer should pay for the nanny's child. Presumably the nanny is gaining by being able to take their child to work with them so they can afford to pay for things since they are getting free child care.