Mindee told me mum is pregnant - should I say anything?

[lechatnoir]

I look after siblings - 1 school age & 1 pre-school - 4 days a week so quite a big chunk of my income from this one family but older mindee (6) has said 'I'm having another baby sister' & when I said do you mean you want one & he said no, mummy's having another baby! Do I say anything or wait for mum to confirm whether it's actually true?

Oh golly, yes I think wait.

Wait for mum, kids say all sorts. One of my mindees told me her mum was pregnant and said in great detail how mummy had a special seed from her boyfriend and was having twins! Turned out she wasn't pregnant at all.

I did think it could be his over-active imagination so quite possible it's not true (but am feeling nervous about all the September enquiries I keep turning away!!)

I had this the other day, with a Mum I was pretty sure was not planning any more children. I just told her what her son had said and after looking very embarrassed, she said no, it's not true. We had a good laugh about it.

My DS told his nursery I was having a baby (I'm not). He also told them the baby was planted at the weekend and growing in the garden.

I think I'd mention it to the mum. He may have heard something he shouldn't and be telling everyone the news before the family actually want to announce the pregnancy. Or she might not be pg and her dc is telling the world she is, which is also something I'd want to deal with as a parent. Either way, as long as you are tactful about how you ask, I wouldn't see it as a problem if someone came to me in this situation. She can always lie if she doesn't want you to know yet, but really why tell a child before you are ready to tell everyone. IME children aren't the best at secrets!

I'd mention it. 6 year olds have great imaginations but I would certainly want to know if my dd had been saying something like this. And if it is true she probably won't mind you knowing and she'll have an early warning that this child has probably told everyone already!

one of my lo told me mum was preganant ans that she was having a baby sister. she said that she had seen the scan and everything.

I joked with the dad that the lo had been telling all his secrets! and it turns out that it is his friend that is pregnant!

At the moment.... i have the opposite problem.....I'm sure taht a mum is pregnant, but she hasn't said anything to me about it! not sure whether i should mention anything or not (because it simply could be baby weight from the lo that i mind, but she is definitely getting bigger)

As someone who has mc'd, being asked about a pregnancy before I was ready to announce it would be awful. I suggest you don't say anything. There could be any number of reasons why she is not telling yet (if she actually is pg). And frankly it is none of your business!

I would casually mention to the mum what her dc said as either

a) she is pregnant and may not want dc to be telling people if early days - so needs to know dc is

b) she isn't pregnant and needs to know that dc is telling people she is

c) she is pregnant and hasn't told you that yet

I would just mention what the DC said, for the all the reasons blondes listed.

Sorry late to this thread. Possibly too late. Please don't mention. Having been forced to admit it far earlier than I would've like and with a dodgy pregnancy history, I would've appreciated a bit of discretion.

But if they've already told their dc she must be quite far gone?! I would ask as otherwise you could suddenly loose a large chunk of your income all because you were too polite to ask!

I would mention it politely. DD told nursery I was pg years ago, it was a bit embarrassing as I wasn't but I was glad of the heads up.

DD1 told her cm that I had a baby in my tummy, it was true and I had my scan later that week.

My CM just said, DD1 told me you have a baby in your tummy, I confirmed it at that point.