Grandparent wanting to take child out of your care

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Today my charges grandmother came round,

She asked for the carseat out of my car so she could take my 15month old charge out to tesco with her. I refused, then she had a go at me saying she had permission from mum to.

I still refused and she left in a strop.

My grounds for refusing were - child is in my care

• mum hasn't told me that nan was taking him out

Not a good day!

Re the laundry

She said she didn't have time and was more focussed on spending time with her children.

Re the dirty plates

The dishwasher broke and was repaired on Monday

It's really doesn't sound very satisfactory, you haven't managed to move any further forward on any of the issues. On the basis of "spending time with her children" you can therefore expect to come in every Monday to a heap of laundry and dishes.

I made it clear that I would not be clearing all the weekends plates etc only what I use for the kids.

What is the laundry issue? If we go on hols, our nanny expects to unpack the DC's cases and do their laundry when we return. if we get home a couple of days before our nanny returns, in all likelihood we will have started it, but she would not mind if we didn't. Our DC are school age though, so may be different as she has a lot of "free" time.
So if the laundry issue is just you had to do the DC's laundry from when they were on hols, I dont think that is particularly out of the norm.

Twintum the issues seems to be that the nanny came back after over two weeks off and NO laundry for any of the family had been done and the kitchen was overflowing with dirty dishes. The employer made it clear that she expected the nanny to stay in and deal with the housework rather than do things with the kids. Sorry, it is on another thread, I know it's not good form to link threads but it was also yesterday, I had responded on that thread and when I came onto this one I realised it was the same nanny and employer!

Oh, and family had only been away for a few days at the beginning of the hols, otherwise at home.

That's a pretty crap way to treat your nanny. I wouldn't dream of behaving like that. Sounds like a chat about expectations is needed.

Goodness, I don't think I would leave that much for a cleaner to do, never mind a nanny!