cms does your dh realise how hard you work?!

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I am fairly new to being a cm. I work mon to fri and do enjoy it but it can be exhausting along with looking after own dc, cooking, cleaning etc. I know my dh has no idea how hard i work. When he gets home all mindees have gone and house is calm. I suppose im feeling a bit unappreciated but i dont know how to make him realise all that i do without moaning.

No no no - not in 10 years

Awwww bless you

Top tips from me:
Get a cleaner, omg I adore mine. Well worth twenty quid a week.
Outsource shirt ironing if DH doesn't already do his
Can you cut down your days/ hrs? I don't work fridays, working 5 full days nearly killed me.

Thanks! I think the problem is the 5 days. I was never intending to do it but then one mindee increased her hours and silly me couldnt say no. I really think dh still sees me as a SAHM but i dont want to start all that competing for who has had the hardest day!

My husband came home early this afternoon and so arrived at the height of the maddest part of my day - think he's get a better understanding of how hard I work now

Oh yes!! He childminds with me

Not really, he does help when he is off work (he's registered as my assistant) and the kids adore him and behave so well for him. Also it is easier with 2 adults to 3 kids!

He doesn't realise that I work non stop from 7am to 6pm 3 days per week and 10 - 5:30 1 day. I now take a full day off to spend with my preschooler. He honestly thinks I just sit on my arse and watch the kids, not engage with them and constantly enterain / referee! Not to mention the complaints when I am doing prep / paperwork in the evening and batch cooking on a weekend.

My dh also came home early but thought the dc hilarious and fun and thinks how nice i can go out in the garden. I agree with all this but resent him thinking it is one big jolly time!

I don't think mine really gets that I can't drop everything to run errands. He was a bit put out when I said no to "popping into town" to his bank to put a stop on a lost cheque. (Apart from the difficulties of "popping" anywhere with three babies, I doubted they'd let me). So he said Oh well I'll have to use my lunch hour (long face). Lunch hour!!! I wish!!!

I did rub it in a bit last week when the weather was lovely and dh was moaning about being stuck inside all day, I'd spent all day in the park and met a cm friend and her mindees for lunch. Makes up for all the days he swans off to work and I'm knee deep in dirty nappies!

I film the new ones during settling in time and sends it too him

He watches it with the sound OFF

I don't think he does. I do 4 days a week 7:30 - 6:30 and then 7:30 - 9 on the other day. Plus paperwork, planning, accounts and training.

But he works really long days and very hard too so it's even really. I just seem to do most of the laundry and cleaning etc as I'm here. Once my income picks up again next month I will be getting the ironing done for me.

Atm i spend £250 on staff and im still knackered!!!!!!!

Dh does all the cooking tho so he must realise

Yes! He's great. He totally gets that it's relentless for me...I work 5 full days a week and have a 2 year old myself. So even when the mindees are napping I still have my own child to occupy not to mention trying to tidy up and prepare the dinner in advance etc etc.

He knows he has a lunch break plus he says his commute is an opportunity to just chill a bit before he starts his day/comes home. He does his best to pitch in and give me a break wherever he can on the weekend/in the evenings.