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Nannies - do I need to tell my boss I'm on anti depressants?

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 20/03/2013 14:11

After a trip to the docs I've been put on anti depressants

Do I have to tell my boss? I don't really want to as I don't want her to think less of me

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OutragedFromLeeds · 20/03/2013 14:16

As long as it doesn't effect your ability to do the job then, no, it's none of her business.

If she thinks less of you because you're on anti-depressants, she is an idiot. Unfortunately there are a lot of idiots, so I understand why you don't want to tell her.

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 20/03/2013 14:18

It is very very slightly affecting my job- have on occasion put little one down for a nap then sat and cried/ done nothing instead of doing washing etc

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FlorenceMattell · 20/03/2013 16:05

If it is affecting your job yes you do have to tell her.
After all you are a lone worked and if different to if you were in a position with co workers. And you have a duty of care to the child. I appreciate you said the child was asleep.
It may be you need to be signed off for a while. You may well feel better very soon btw after anti depressants start to work, and be 100 percent able to work.
Maybe you could be signed off for another medical reason and not say about depression just yet. I know not ideal but some employers unfortuantely may not be happy with mental health illness.

If you have been employed more than two years I would be honest 100 percent. Also if after a week on antidepressants still tearful etc I feel you should share this as not fair on your employer.

happyjustobeme · 20/03/2013 21:46

I am a nanny employer and I think you should tell her. Our previous nanny never told us that she was prone to panic attacks until she had one at work, on her own, whist caring for our DC. We put a system in place for if it happened again. If it is impacting on how you do your job, I think you should say something.

Sticklebug · 20/03/2013 21:51

You should tell her. If she has an ounce of sense she will be sympathetic and ensure that you work together to get through this tricky time.

Good luck

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 20/03/2013 22:49

Have come to the decision of just being honest as honesty is the best policy.

Will be difficult but fingers crossed shell be supportive

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OutragedFromLeeds · 20/03/2013 22:52

Good Luck!

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