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Would you tell a parent you were considering leaving

14 replies

Mogandme · 24/02/2013 15:54

I am a nanny - been here 3.6 years and the other day realised I wasn't enjoying my job or looking forward to coming back after a few days away.

My employer is an ok employer, but we do have issues at times and I love my charge and if things were different I WOULD stay on but they're not and there's nothing my boss can do to change things.

So I think I am about to step into the deep end and find a new job - BUT do I tell my boss first to give her a heads up or just tell her when I find something?

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iluvkids · 24/02/2013 16:26

If the shoe was on the other foot..would they tell/warn you...

I'd look out for you...

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Mogandme · 24/02/2013 16:28

Hmmm true

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DIYapprentice · 24/02/2013 18:34

For those reasons, no I wouldn't tell them. As you say, there's nothing they can do to make you stay. If you do want to be helpful, you could prepare a handover folder for the new nanny.

Isabeller · 24/02/2013 18:41

Sadly also have to say don't tell until you have a firm offer elsewhere

boo88 · 24/02/2013 18:45

i am a nanny with a similar situation. that i have been with the family for 6 months with no contract. i have decided to return to my previous family who have offered my five days work but now i am only doing three. i am unsure about the amount of notice i should give them as i don't have a contract.

Antidote · 24/02/2013 18:52

As someone who has had a nanny, who has "thought about leaving" twice (once to the point where we had recruited a new nanny), then left for real I would suggest you tell them what you are thinking but give them a date by which you will let them know for certain.

I would respect that position.

expatinscotland · 24/02/2013 18:54

NO. Get another job and then tell them. Same as you would in any other job. You don't owe them anything more than they owe you. It's a job.

Karoleann · 24/02/2013 20:15

No, I wouldn't say anything, it's always a bit more awkward when someone is leaving anyway. And they're likely to start recruiting straight away, they may even find someone else before you have another job to go to.

Iggly · 25/02/2013 06:49

Yes I would. Just because they wouldn't doesn't mean you need to be the same.

Why cant things change?

flubba · 25/02/2013 07:15

Unless you can come up with other reasons why you're looking to leave, (other than "I don't like working for you") then I wouldn't say anything for the time being as it would make the remaining working time very awkward.

HappyAsEyeAm · 25/02/2013 08:59

"we do have issues at times"

Is your employer aware of those issues, is it possible for them to be resolved, and is your employer aware that those issues are causing you to seriously think about leaving?

I am a mum and nanny employer. I would like to think that I have a good relationship with our nanny, and that she would tell me of any issues and we would work together to solve them. I would be devastated if she gave in her notice without discusssing them with me first, and us both trying our best to reach a resolution. 3.6 years is a long time, and the children will have bonded with you. If there's a chance of sorting out the issues, I think you should do what you can (together) (and if you haven't already) to try.

Iggly · 25/02/2013 09:14

I agree with Happy (I too have a nanny)

Marypoppins99 · 25/02/2013 09:26

As a nanny who in a previous job when my boss was pregnant when I started my new job and wasn't told she was then was reassured my job was safe. Then told on her first day of maternity leave that I was being given my notice due to them not needing me. It has taught me to look out for myself as you never know what going to happen. If you aren't happy and the issues you think can't be resolved then it may be time that you do start looking.

Blondeshavemorefun · 25/02/2013 23:34

What are the issues and can they be sorted?

If not then no I wouldn't tell your boss you are thinking of leaving as others have said they may find a nanny before you find a job

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