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Should I expect an au pair to look after sick children?

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Woolfiemum · 27/01/2013 11:10

Am I being unreasonable? My husband and I both work full time and our au pair works 4 - 5 hours a day, dropping the children at school and then picking up and looking after until around 6 each evening.

Last week 2 of the children were ill, on different days, and we asked if she would look after them during the day for the hours when my husband couldn't (he works from home but I'm in a pressured office environment where it's really frowned upon to take time off)

We felt on the one hand, the children come first so her language school was a lower priority (she didn't want to miss lessons), and we checked with her that she would not lose any money as she would be able to make up the sessions at a later stage - she said that wasn't a problem.

She was clearly unwilling but she did miss the sessions to look after the kids and I feel really conflicted about it... were we unreasonable?

They will almost certainly need another day or two off school. Should I take leave? On the one hand I really feel I should, especially if they are both off ill; as their mum it's important that I'm there for them. Plus I don't want to alienate the au pair to the extent that she leaves!!

Any advice about usual protocol gratefully received

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alice298 · 29/01/2013 14:06

I agree with Fillybuster. I have had 2 au pairs, and it was understood from the beginning that for me having someone living in my house means I have back up. I am very clear each week about what she is doing, her hours and so on - but if I have an emergency I would be really surprised if she refused to help out (for extra pay of course). She is a member of the family in a way- we look after her, help her out, give her nice things, pay her well - so it is all give and take. We have a very very good relationship - so also for her it is about the fact she wants to look after the children when they need her, because she loves them.

Fillybuster · 29/01/2013 15:18

I've been thinking about this, and it really is all about the relationship - as Alice says - with the dcs and with the adults. It's my aupairs birthday in 2 weeks....we have bought her a stack of presents, will be baking a cake, making a big fuss etc etc and of course I would never expect her to babysit over that weekend.

Oddly enough, its dd1s birthday party that weekend. Aupair has already said 'oh but of course I want to be there - I wouldn't miss it for anything' :)

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