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have been having real trouble with 8mth old baby who just refuses to settle. i have agreed with mum that he will have to scream at least some of the time because i am unable to give him all my attention with the other children being there. he was in a real state to start with and i felt sooooo awful but at last he has started to show some improvement. but. i still can not put him down or even turn my back on him. it is awful, he doesnt even shed any tears, its all just pure anger. i am at the end of my list of things to do for him, i dont usually give up, but what else is there. HELP

how long have you had him for?

been settling in for 2 weeks now, including a couple of whole days. full time from next week..........

i had this but i was only starting out and only had him during the day, don't think i could do it now. have too many to devote all my time to one baby. he screamed for 6 months when i got him at six months until he was a year. i used to put him in the pram and just walk!! and he was with me 4 days a week. probably not what you want to hear but he has been the best toddler. looking back i would have invested in a good baby sling, because he stopped when he was being carried. i think this was bordem because he was better when he started cerawling and fine as soon as he started walking. just hang in there i know it is so hard to listen to though.

you have to do what is best for you. If it's too stressful for you (and him) then the best thing you can do for everyone is give notice sooner rather than later.
Sometimes things just don't work out.
Although 2 weeks isn't really that long. What does the mum say?

I think this is perfectly normal behviour for an 8 month old who is new to the concept of day care (I'm assuming mum has just gone back to work). My 11 month old has been quite clingy lately. He has a fit if I (or nanny) leave the room. It is annoying, but normal.

I agree that when they become mobile they are more willing/able to entertain themselves.

It's a grotty age for a baby to settle somewhere new, and I definitely wouldn't give notice to a parent if you've only had him part-time for two weeks. He may well calm down once he is coming full-time.

How about putting on some music (one of my babies gets a quick burst of Girls Aloud occasionally - it works wonders!!) Like nicm, I would also go for walks, although you obviously have to accommodate your other mindees, and the weather isn't at its best.

What on earth did you say??

i asked them to delete something.....was worried the parent might come on here and put 2 and 2 together. bit of paranoia on my part. made me laugh when i saw your message