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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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People i nanny for are advertising for new nanny

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snaplockslags · 06/01/2013 22:33

I have been nannying for a family for two years, when i began i was on a college course and my starting uni was always on the agenda. This september i started ubi which impeded my flexibility, this had put strain on my relationship with the parents and they have recently cut my hours downto twelve a week from thirty. I agreed to this and got a lodger inorder to pay my rent. I was just browsing the job section and found that they are advertising for a new nanny! I am scared that losing my job will look bad to a potential new employer, this family are difficult to work for compared with other families ive nannied for so im happy to leave. Its the dnd of a chapter and i accept that i just dont like how theyve treated my over the past few months.

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McPhee · 06/01/2013 22:34

They sound simply charming........

MajesticWhine · 06/01/2013 22:38

I suggest you have a chat with them, and say you realise that it's not a good fit any more and that you expect they will be looking for someone else who can do more flexible hours. Then it is an amicable ending due to your change of circumstances, and it's not the same as losing your job. It's mean of them not to be straight with you, but it's probably worth keeping things sweet so that you get a good reference.

SamSmalaidh · 06/01/2013 22:57

Sounds like they want to make you redundant if they really need someone who can do 30 hours? As you have been there 2 years then they need to pay you redundancy money I think. They also need to offer you the new (30 hour) position first, but obviously if you can't take it then they can recruit someone else.

Being made redundant won't look bad on your CV. They aren't sacking you.

I would talk to the family, say you have seen the advert and ask if they are planning on making you redundant.

Blondeshavemorefun · 07/01/2013 00:02

The things is if you can't cover all 30hrs to them and you can't coz of uni then I don't think they are being horrible or unfair to advertise your job for the full hours

You need to talk to them and say you saw the ad / you can't do the hours they want and go from there

I'm not sure if they are making you redundant as you changed the terms first by not managing to do all the hours iyswim

If I said to my ex Mb that I couldn't do school picks up/work past 4pm etc anymore then they would have to let me
Go - rather then her say kids are now at school - we need less hours hence making me redundant - iyswim

Thought I may be wrong with the above / it's late and blondes brain is frazzled - only up as feeding my twins

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snaplockslags · 07/01/2013 12:05

Thanks, I called her and said that maybe its come to a natural end, she said that she was looking for someone as well as me! I had put an ad up on the same site advertising my services when I saw their ad because I was worried about suddenly being given my notice.
Wish me luck, this job feels really depressing

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annh · 07/01/2013 21:45

You posted about this family before and people did advise that if you were working 30 hours and can now only work 12 hours, unless the family circumstances have changed, of course they will need to cover the extra hours so it seems quite reasonable for them to advertise. How else are they going to cover the hours you were doing?

Do you actually want to continue working 12 hours for them? It sounds like neither you or the family are happy with the current situation.

madrudge · 09/01/2013 20:02

Cough,cough - I think those are MY twins you are talking about, Blondes! (They are gorgeous aren't they?)

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/01/2013 00:10

Actually they are my twins - so ner

And yes scrummy :)

Strix · 10/01/2013 11:45

I think the mum was careless at best to put that ad up and not have a chat with you before hand. I guess it didn't occur to her that you were going to see it, but really it should have.

If I was a nanny and saw that ad I would have drawn exactly the same conclusion as you.

narmada · 10/01/2013 16:05

Was it your decision to start uni? To cut down from 30 to 12 hours? I thought I remembered another thread from you from late last year...

If it was I think you're being unreasonable to say the least. People rely on childcare in order to work and pay their own bills.

If I came into work and said 'I can't attend for x hours any more; I can do a third of my contracted hours if you like?' I would fully expect to be laughed out of the room.

Apologies if I have the wrong end of the stick.

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