If you heard a childs parent say

[DoISay]

something upsetting to the child.

Context

Child "I hate you"
Parent "Well if you hate me then I wont be here when you finish school"

Parent later jokes about it to me and says maybe it'll teach child a lesson as they are actually going away for the weekend and the child doesn't know.

:(

Would you tell the parent (one of your parents) that it was unacceptable or just deal with the tears and upset later on from the child and not say a word?

Blondes we've spoken about this family before :(

There is only mum so no-one else to speak to. Will have to schedule a chat next week.

I think you really do need to schedule a chat. This is the kind of situation that breaks my heart :(

Adults can be so cruel to children without realising it. They think it's a joke but don't comprehend that the child simply doesn't understand, and this is a particularly vicious example.

Does this happen a lot? It's emotional abuse and I think you should be noting down your concerns and raising it with the relevant authorities if yo you see a worrying pattern.

Fuck. That is really nasty. What a cow. I'd have to say something, politely of course. You couldn't not really.

Oh :( that family :(

So.. how?

She often asks me if his behaviour is to do with her? Could follow on from there.... have other "issues" around the same theme, do I go in for the onslaught I hate this part of the job.

What sort of behaviour are we talking about?

It does sound as if there is a real issue here in their relationship.

General 4 year old stuff. But he is generally silly/naughty for her and then we have big tantrums but again nothing a bit of consistency wouldn't solve.

Thats awful. What if something happens like a car crash and god forbid the parent dies, that child will be even more messed up thinking it happened because she said i hate you.

It sounds like he's desperate for her attention/approval.

If she can't already see that and is saying this sort of thing I'm not how or if you'll be able to get through to her tbh.