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Parents birthday

9 replies

laanndaaannanny · 09/10/2012 19:19

I've been nannying for a family for a couple of weeks now and it's the fathers birthday soon and I don't know what to do present wise. I don't really know what he'd like to buy him something, so thought maybe just a card. But I don't want to seem really cheap :s It's one of the children's birthdays right after and I'm planning on getting them a present.

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GrimAndHumourless · 09/10/2012 19:30

could you get the children to collage a frame and pop a nice pic of them into into it?

ZuleikaD · 10/10/2012 09:22

I wouldn't get him a present. Just a card will be fine I think - I'm positive he wouldn't expect anything from you.

Ebb · 10/10/2012 10:54

I agree - a card would be fine. Get the children to paint / make a picture and maybe make a cake with them if you feel you want to do more.

MrAnchovy · 10/10/2012 11:40

This is just my personal opinion as a parent: DO NOT BUY A PRESENT.

You pay for a present from your taxed income that you earn from the family. Let's say it costs £10. Before tax and NI you had to earn £14.70 to get that £10 net. The parents had to pay £2.03 NI on top, so £16.73 in all.

But they paid that from their income after tax, even if they don't pay higher rate tax they would need to earn £24.60 to get £16.73 net.

So while it's the thought that counts, the thought when you give the parent a £10 bottle of wine is "happy birthday HMRC, I've got a nice bottle of wine and you've got £14.60".

I would be delighted if you took a few £ from the kitty to buy craft materials for a collage. Or (if it is not included in your rate) babysat for free so I could go out with my partner.

MrAnchovy · 10/10/2012 11:41

Oooo a cake, yes please - the kids love cooking and I love cake!

NatashaBee · 10/10/2012 11:43

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laanndaaannanny · 10/10/2012 12:44

A cakes a great idea thanks!

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HolyAutumnGoldBatman · 10/10/2012 13:03

I never get the parents a present or a card, but always do something with the kids (make a cake/present/photos).

Grin at MrAnchovy's thought process on receiving a birthday gift!

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/10/2012 13:49

I always give a card from Myself to Mb and db

And then make a card with dc and either bake a cake or make or buy something from the children - using kitty money

Shock and Grin at mr a

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