Does this sound like an OK day for a nearly two year old?

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I'm just checking what other childminders would do all day with a nearly two year old because I'm just a bit worried about dd.

Breakfast, nursery drop off, supermarket shop (not sure what else), nursery pick up, lunch, nap or cuddle cm and watch soaps, school pick-up, play-doh and drawing while cm is on computer, playing with toys, home time.

Does this sound ok/ normal to you?

I really like then child minder but I'm concerned dd just has to fit in with everything else. I actually use a child minder and not nursery because I prefer a more relaxed home environment but I'm feeling that it might be ok to do this with your own child but maybe a bit more effort should be put in for a mindee. Thanks for any words of wisdom.

Bugger the meeting, just move her and report to Ofsted for the breach of registration.

If you're still in such early days then I would expect her to still be trying to make more of an effort. For me, watching soaps (any sort of adult tv) would be completely out. We don't watch tv at all but if we did it would definitely be children's tv, not adult. I think it's completely inappropriate, tbh. And leaving them with her daughter is absolutely out of the question. I would move your children now.

I'm a childminder and whilst we don't have a hugely structured day it usually includes some of the following:

'helping' prepare food (in the way only toddlers can!!)
messy play activity (paint, craft, baking, playdough, moddeling clay etc)
toddler group / softplay / music group / gym class / dance class depending on the day
Playground and play dates
free play time
story time
song time
walk in woods / to community garden to do some gardening

Basically, apart from naps which they usually don't co-ordinate, my day is completely child focused. That's what i'm paid to do.

Yes I chuck a load of washing in and sort the dishwasher. Do the chores that are absolutely necessary (wipe worktops after food prep kind of thing) I'm not paid to watch telly and do my shopping. I certainly would never leave children in the care of someone else unless they were my assistant.

I would be having a serious chat with her and considering my options if I were you.

Thanks all. I'd expected this to be gone by now.

I've told the lady today that the girls aren't going back next week because she left them with her daughter and I didn't feel like dd2 was treated as a priority.

It was a very quick conversation at nursery pick-up but should I offer to pay out the notice period? I think it was a fundamental breach of trust so not and for me the main problem is that I'd no longer trust implicility which I think you need to with a cm. I also didn't want to keep on settling dd2 only to uproot her through no fault of our own.

I've found a nursery starting on Monday which I don't adore but dds seemed to like it. Dd1 refused to leave :). All the decent childminders are taken and all other nurseries are full.

I'm feeling very guilty even though I've done nothing wrong! Nursery relationships are easier when you have issues, that's for sure.

I don't think you should pay the notice period - it's gross misconduct (or whatever the equivalent is when you're using a service). I doubt she's going to chase it - she won't want you reporting her to OFSTED which you rightfully could (should?) do.

MN don't generally delete threads unless there's loads of identifying details. I'd let it stand - I don't think it's remotely identifying and it serves as a salutary reminder to both CMs and parents choosing childcare.

I think you've done the right thing here, for sure. I wouldn't have been happy with that, either.

It just highlights how difficult it is to find quality childcare. I've met some truly awful potential childminders - filthy houses, no rapport with children, etc.

It's the lack of choices for parents that keeps these people in business. A good childminder is like gold-dust

my just 2yr old does breakfast and play, playgroup type thing, home for lunch, nap, school run (term time), tea and play and I collect at 4.30pm

old childminder (from 9mths-19mths) used to be breakfast, tv, school run (term time), sometimes park/sometimes (almost always) shop/her doc appointment/home to play in playroom, lunch, nap, school run, home for tea/play and tv - not totally great but ok but new one is much better