Saying goodbye

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Just after some advice really. I am leaving my 5yr old charge this week and have to tell her after school tomorrow. She is very attached, and I fear a meltdown. Anyone got any good tips to make it as easy on her as possible please?

Why are you doing the telling and not parents ? Sorry if I am missing something obvious

The parents think it's better if I tell her. I agree it's unusual - the parents have always been the ones to do the telling in my previous families.

has you moving on ever been mentioned to your charge?

you could say something like (making assumptions here)

''now you are in school and a Big Girl I am needed with tiny children elsewhere from tomorrow''

?

oh, x posts, sorry

I am torn between saying goodbye and scooting orf, to minimise distress/clinging to you, and telling her earlier and having time to sit with her to help her process your imminent leaving

[ponders]

Thanks Raisin, but I don't think that would work. She's a very bright YR1 and think she'll pick that apart/look for solutions that I'll find hard to rebuff, which might get confusing for her. The last thing I want her to think is that she's somehow responsible for my leaving/has done something to upset me enough to leave and that I'm lying or making excuses :(

I might saying just like you've got a new class teacher, you're going to have a new nanny...

Oh, too fast for me, sorry! That was a reply to your big girl post above

yes I agree harsh for BB to have to do with such a short timescale, but what's done is done, we need to focus on the job in hand

BB I think you could pick a phrase/idea (like your new teacher one, really like that) and apply the Broken Record technique if you need to, with lots of Jolly Hockey Sticks attitude (do you get what I mean?) so that your moving on is a positive thing.

What do you think?

I thought mum was going to tell her over the weekend, but she has asked me to do it instead :(

Just want to make it as painless as possible for my lovely little charge, but never been in this position before. Really need some tips please

I really feel for you

I am hoping someone with more experience will trot along to help

What Raisin said @18.00.
Plus: 'you can still love someone even if you don't see them every day and i love you very much'.

Sorry, horribly slow computer (and typing) here.

Yes Raisin, good plan. I am very Jolly Hockey Sticks anyway - do you know me in RL? ;) I just know that however positively I present the idea of me leaving, she won't take it well. Only last week she told me I was her 'best nanny ever' and how much she loved me.

I love my job, but I really hate this part.

I like that Laquitar. Thank you

I find it very odd that the parents aren't going to tell her or at least be there when you do. Are they angry at you for leaving or something?

Really bad form that the parents have left it up to you, BB!

Why are you leaving so suddlenly and so quickly?