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clingy toddler + new nanny - any tips?

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satinandsilk · 09/09/2012 21:32

Can anyone give me any tips as to how to settle our 20 month old with a new nanny?
After total stability for the first 18 months of her life, she has been through quite a lot of upheaval, with the arrival of a new baby and the departure of her nanny.Unfortunately we have had several people 'coming and going' helping look after her for the last few weeks, and she is understandably pretty confused and has become exceptionally clingy, with lots of tears and tantrums. The situation is complicated by the fact that when our new nanny starts, I will still be around the house quite a bit, until I return to work in a few months.
I would really appreciate any shared experience/advice/tips on how to help my daughter accept the new nanny and reduce the trauma for all concerned as it's not something I have any experience of...TIA

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calmlychaotic · 09/09/2012 21:49

maybe not quite the same but i'm a childminder and i have struggled to settle a little boy recently about the same age as your dd. We did lots of playing, staying home, keeping things calm and settled and lots of cuddles wasnt working at all, he hated me!! did a couple of full days out, really active loads of fun - out from 9 - 4, beach, softplay, playgrounds etc, has done the trick and in a couple of days we were fine, bonded great now. But settled a little girl few months ago total opposite, got scared and clingy if we went out too much so stayed home, kept it familiar lots of hugs and she is great with me now and didnt take long. She will adapt and she will settle, make sure you dont show you are worried keep it cheery and positive and she'll accept her, children are great at adapting.

Gigondas · 09/09/2012 21:53

My daughter older but had similar settling in when dd2 was quite young , I was around (but had been in hospital hence dd1 unsettled). You need to give time and space to nanny to let her develop relationship . I would go with calms suggestion of what works best for your dd then let nanny have time and space to do it.

Giving nanny space worked well for us

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