Not sure about new au pair..

[TwoCrazyKids]

Our new au pair moved in last week( but spent the weekend with friends). I'm not sure I am 100% happy with her.

She didn't talk much for her first few days but I put it down to nerves. She returned after her weekend yesterday evening and was full of chat with me so thought everything was fine.

Today I asked her to get up at 7:30 with me and I would show her my general routine getting the dc out to school. She got up but barely said a word to the kids. She is very helpful and clean but has no interaction with the children. After we collected dc from play school, I wasn't feeling well do asked her to watch boys for a few hours while I rested. I didn't hear a peep out if her downstairs, could just hear the dc talking.

I don't know what to do...my children are only toddlers do they need the interaction. If she is like that in front of me, I dread to think what she will be like when I'm not here : \

As I said shd is great at housework and with do and I, she just doesn't seem to click sigh the children..

How old is she ? What is her language ability ? At this early stage she might be struggling to put together conversations ?

she is 23 and her english is good. She has enough to have a conversation with me.

How has today gone? Are things any better? How are your children with her?

Has your AP had much experience with toddlers?? How long will she have sole care of them?

I would be inclined to have a chat with her and tell her your concerns. Maybe she might need some guidance.

I'd give it a little more time and have chat with her. Our last au pair was very very quiet - I would walk in the room and she would sitting in silence whilst the children played. I had a chat with her about the fact that she didn't say much and she understood but she just was quiet and shy - in fact she was great with the kids later once she had settled in.
I'm sure of you have a chat with her and explain that she needs to interact with the kids and how important this is as they won't warm to her etc etc it should all be okay. Good luck!

Hi, thanks for replies. She was much better today. She seemed more at ease. She will be working for about 32 hours in all but 15 of those they will at playschool.

I think it may have been first week nerves. She is great otherwise. the house was so clean when i got home today and she had done loads of washing which i didnt even ask her to do :)

The kids really like her which is a great sign.