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My 16 year old is going nuts because I want to wait till after my child minding kids have gone before making her and her sister dinner, this means they have to wait till 6.30 i make the child minding kids a sandwich when they come in and I don't charge for food. I cannot afford to give them dinner as well and I dont think its fair for my daughters to be eating dinner when the other kids have to wait till they get home. She's actually doing my fucking head in because "shes starving" Ive told her Ive already cooked off the baked potatoes and she can put a pie in the oven to have to eat with it but no, Im the MUM its my job to cook her dinner and shes starving its not like I have two bloody jobs and a college course that im falling behind with cos im so busy cos she wants bloody superdry vouchers for her birthday Im so AARGh

phew needed to get that out

She's 16 old enough to cook her own dinner or see to herself.

Teenagers! Been there, done that. Nothing you do is ever right!!! She'd have to wait until 7.30 for dinner in our house

shes just giving me such a hard time the now really really on my case all the time saturday I spent the whole day cleaning the house I mean all day then I was out at work all day sunday, sunday night her sister knocked the clothes horse and two pairs of 16yolds knickers fell on carpet she was screaming these will need to be re washed now they have touched the floor they will be filthy!! Ive really really had e fucking nough of her atm always saying she gets the harsh deal and her sister gets everything, her sister is 8!! Of course I help her sister more!!!

I gave in and put steak pie in oven as she was screaming at me in front of child minding kid and I canny have that, so shes had her way now

Best thing I find is to sit and have a 'chat' about acceptable behaviour/what you will and wont do/what you expect her to do etc. after it has all calmed down, not while they are in a rage about things. They will usually still disagree with you, but I find they go away and think about the conversation and will either come back to you and apologise or you will see they have listened through their subsequent actions.

Hang in there, teenagers do turn into reasonable adults eventually

I don't know if she's eating anything at school. for her to be this grumpy and starving..also complaining about sore boobs so probably hormones as well but seriously feel like I cant take much more of this

Why not make her a snack of a sandwich to have at the same time as the minded children that's what my mum used to do for me if I was hungry before dinner at 7. If any children were still there at 7 we all just ate anyway.

Offer her a sandwich at the same time as the mindees? Or dinner to be eaten elsewhere?

i would just give her dinner and she could maybe eat it in her room. i feed both my 11 month old and my 5 year old dinner. parents know that dinner is around 5 and that they have the option to pay extra for dinner. i use to have a we one who had dinner on certain days but just now his mum is on maternity leave so he hasnt been having dinner so it is only my 2 that get feed at that time. they couldnt wait till later as there 2 hungry and there bed time is 7ish

I ahve this with my teenage DS and mindees. DS1 is always starving! By the time mindees go at 5, and I tidy up, and vacum and put things away , it can be 6pm before I start even peeling veg etc.
My mindees are 8 and 5.

gnocci she doesnt get in till an hour after mindees as she gets bus from high school so by the time she gets in ive done snack and am busy playing or out at park with mindees

Could you make her a sandwich at the same time as your mindees and leave it on the side for her to have when she gets in?

Or tell her to make herself a snack if she's that hungry?! My sister and I were getting ourselves home from school, having a premade snack out of the fridge/on the bench/making our own and getting on with homework etc from 10 or 11 since my mum wouldn't be home til 6/630 from work. Tell her to stop feeling so entitled, she's lucky you're around in the afternoons!

I think you should make her a sandwich and she can eat it when she gets in or she can eat her dinner in her room. Perhaps you can sit down together and do some meal plans together and she can help or do some cooking and you can eat yours later.

I am at this advice.

She is 16 and screaming at her mother in front of mindees?

She wouldn't be getting special meals cooked in this house. In fact shed be cooking her own dinner for the forseeable future. Don't pander to her tantrums. Ever.

I'm with Felicity on this one. My eleven year old can make himself a sandwich. He'd be in his room without a sandwich if he ever dared to scream at me.

But they aren't special meals. It's her dinner. We are trying to help solve the problem.

Making her a sandwich is not her dinner, it was that advice I was objecting too.

Not that she might want a sandwich (totally reasonable) but that the OP should make time to make her one and put it aside, when, at 16 she is plenty old enough to make her own.

It is also not at all unreasonable to expect a 16 year old to wait til 6.30 for dinner (or frankly 7.30...) if that it what is most convenient for the person making the dinner.

The 16 year old could be cooking her own/the family dinner earlier if she is hungry.

The was mainly for the way people are suggesting the OP change her behaviour to placate a rude, entitled 16 year old who is treating her mother disgracefully.

I would set p a rota for making dinner and cleaning up afterwards to be shared by the whole family. At 16 she can cook one night, clean another, and so on. 7:30, or even 8:30 is a perfectly acceptable dinner time for a sixteen year old.

I think it's time to put your boot up her spoilt entitled arse op.

My teens wouldn't freakin dare act like this. I wouldn't put up with this when they were toddlers.

Tell her dinner will be served at 6:30/7pm. If she is hungry before then she is welcome to make a snack for herself.

Also tell her the screaming, shouting and moaning can stop or she can forget the Superdy vouchers for her birthday.