Didn't get the job, dealing with rejection?

[NotAChocolateRaisin]

Hi all,
Just got the rejection email from a Nanny position that I was so so excited about. The email was really nice but they had simply found a cheaper option and although I am "clearly gifted with children", they "had no choice".
I am EXTREMELY gutted and upset (in fact a storm has just brewed in the area which I'm sure I'm to blame for) so two questions:

1. How can I get over the crippling disappointment?

and 2. Does anyone need a live-in Nanny?!

Are they in fact giving you an opportunity to lower your price? Worth considering I'd say. I'd reply saying you're sorry to hear they feel they had no choice as you were excited about the position, would a negotiation on price change things? Got to be worth a shot.

Did they advertise the job at a set salary? Maybe they didn't realise how much a nanny would cost and eventually did the sums and decided that another form of childcare would work and would cost less. Maybe their circumstances just changed.

1. Move on... do something you enjoy to take your mind off it.
2. No.

To quote "after much deliberation have decided to take on someone else. It was a difficult decision but we have found a more affordable solution and have had to take it"

I don't think replying with a price negotiation would work. I really felt a connection with the family, so I'm really disappointed.

To be honest it sounds as if they are gutted too.

Do bear in mind that with the current climate there are more nannies chasing each job so you are likely to find this an ongoing issue - if you are charging maybe 20% more than some of the other applicants then many parents will go for the cheaper option. From the parent's point of view nearly all of the second income is taken up in childcare costs and there is usually very little left at all, so even small differences in an hourly rate can make a huge difference for the parents.

If you like the family would you drop your salary? You have nothing to lose in asking the family if you are willing to do that. You could even perhaps offer to work for less £ per week but with an extra couple of weeks holiday so you don't lose out yourself.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childminders_nannies_au_pairs_etc/1545321-How-long-to-leave-the-job-ad

^ the employer on there asked you if you wanted to hear about her job, don't know if shes already told u about it

@iluvkids I hadn't seen that. Thanks!!! xxx