What is it reasonable to expect a cm to do in terms of getting dd to sleep?

[zambooloo]

Hi, my 7 month old dd is going to a cm for 1-2days a week from September. At the moment she needs to be rocked to sleep. She fights it a lot with sudden cries and back arching for about 5-10mins before she falls asleep. She will then sleep in a cot.

She will wake up afew times during her nap & need to be rocked back off. She needs 3hrs daytime sleep or she is v v unhappy.

We play a cd of waves throughout her nap as it is v noisy round here & this keeps her asleep. I was going to lend the cm a cd player & cd to use.

The cm has 2 other children of pre-school age to look after as well.

Do you think I'm asking too much here with the sleep thing?

Thank you for any advice/ opinions!

Well I'd broach it with her, but I found when my DS1 started nursery that he went to sleep much better for them than he did for me.

I don't think it's reasonable to expect her to leave the other children unattended for 10 mins at a time just because you've got your DD into this habit tho' and it might be worth putting in the work yourself over the next few weeks to break her of it.

It really depends whether she needs to be rocked to sleep away from other children and noise. I don't think asking her to spend 10 minutes to get her to sleep would be a problem it would be that she'd have to do it with the other children around. A CM wouldn't be able to leave the other kids to their own devices in a different room while she got the baby off. As for the rocking back off, that might not happen if the CM is in the middle of something with the other children - like wiping a bum or something. The baby would have to wait which would make it less likely she goes back off.

BUT you will probably find your baby behaves very differently for a CM anyway, the CM will find her own way to get her off to sleep so I wouldn't worry too much.

To be blunt and sorry if this offends but She doesn't need to be rocked to sleep - you have made her get used to that - that's up to you how you get your daughter to sleep but

A cm can't do that as has other children to look after so you need to start to allow your child to learn to fall asleep on her own - she will cry as used to being rocked otherwise your dd will find it hard at the cm

Saying that children often do one thing for their parent and others for nannys/cm

I have worked for parents who say their child needs abc to sleep - like today doing a temp nanny job/ mb said she always bf 18mth to sleep after lunch and then needs rocking or will cry

Obv I won't be bf

After lunch I put the toddler in her cot with a teddy and she went straight to sleep with no crying or rocking and slept 2.5hrs

I have a little girl who is horrendous for mum, strips her nappy off trashes her room etc and won't go to sleep, she drops off straight away for me. I think I'd take the cd player but just see how it goes for a few days.

sorry if this offends you but as a registered childminder this would be a no no for me - I would have refused to take your child when I first interviewed you as it just wouldn't/couldn't work for me, I have other children to care for, places to go, things to do.....
If you are willing to compromise and also put in the work yourself now to break these habits then you may find it will work out with the childminder but if you are very rigid in what you expect you may find either one or both of you ends up unhappy with the placement and it won't last