CM Club - Embarrased to go back to mum and tots

[Jensmum]

This morning I took mindees to mum and tots and there was an incident where a little boy got biten really hard (so hard it was bleeding) and when the boys mum said "does anyone know who bit him" my youngest mindee said "me me" she said sorry and I apologised but I don't think she did.
She has never bit before but she can hit out. She was near the boy at the time but so were about 3 other children.

Anyway I put our coats on and apologised again and left early. I wont be going tomorrow as I don't have the kids until the afternoon (its a morning session) so I won't see the other mothers till monday.

She is not the only child there that hits out there are quite a few and the boys mum said he bit a couple of weeks ago.

I don't think anyone will be off or anything with me but I'm worried about going back.

How should I handle it?

So long as you're not just letting her get away with biting and that you keep aclose eye on her in future I don't think anyone will say anything. Obviously if you're totally ignoring the problem then that in itself is a proble. I'd go back, aware that she could well bite again but not make a big deal of it. A lot of children go through this phase

Exactly the same thing happened to another mum at mums and tots last week. Kids just do it but there is a stigma attached to biting. As long as apologies are said what more can be done. Tomorrow is another day!

As long as you are seen to deal with any inappropriate behaviour, then you shouldn't feel bad at going back. You could have a chat to the mum of the injured child and ask how he is, and (if it was me) would say that you're not convinced it was your mindee because she tends to take the blame for stuff??

Just thought I'd let everyone know I went back yesterday and everyone was fine with me.

After I left with mindees on thursday another child got bit (so hard it was bleeding) and the mum's compared bite marks and it looks like it was the same child so my mindee is off the hook. (just don't understand why she decided to say it was her)

I got mixed responses about leaving early some thought I was being really soft and others thought I did the right thing removing mindee from the situation.

Thanks for advice