Relocating and would love nanny to come too. How to make it appealing?!

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We are moving from Central London to Hampshire. Our wonderful live-in nanny travels from London to Kent at the weekends (leaves Friday night after 6pm and returns Sunday night).

We would love her to come and live with us as she is amazing and I think it will help our children (3 young boys under 4) settle more easily, especially during the move.

Her commute will go from 2 hours to 4 hours one way.

We were thinking of offering the following to make the move appealing to her too:

Leave on a Friday lunchtime.
We will pay taxi allowance to and from the local station (we will drive her where possible though!).
We will pay the additional train costs (assuming the train is booked well in advance).
She is expected to work 1-2 Saturday mornings a month (in lieu of a half day Friday) which we will scrap so she will always have a weekend free.

What do you think - would you move with us?!

My first thought would be she will lose 2hrs of her time on Sunday with the extra travelling - I guess it may depend on how much this bothers her & whether you could offer anything to compensate for this?

guess depends how much she likes you

tbh i am surprised she travels from kent to you and lives in during the week, rather then finds a job nearer to her and live out

4hrs hours is a very long time to travel every friday and sunday - tho she gets a half day friday, will she be paid for it, therefore making travelling in her weekly salary - but as derby said will she be paid for her extra 2 hrs that she has to leave on a sunday - prob means she would have to leave hers by 6pm the latest on a sunday to be at yours 10ish

plus how easy it is to get from kent to hampshire by train - are there many changes

how long has she been your nanny

assuming she knows and sees london nannies - so also depends if she wants to make a new circle of nanny friends in hampshire

May also depend where in Hampshire, some parts can be very rural whilst others are busy towns and even cities (Winchester, Portsmouth I think are both cities).

You can only ask her, see what she says.

I imagine that from some parts of Hampshire to Kent, travel involves going into London and back out again. May not be something she wants to do on a Sunday... but I guess she is already doing the Kent to London bit.

If she gets fri afternoon off, that's about 4 hours off a week. Which does compensate for the 2 hrs extra travel on a Friday and 2 hours on a Sunday.

Then she also gets an extra sat morning off a month.

Sounds fair to me, I'd move with you!

Thanks guys.

She will obviously still be paid on the Friday and I guess will then be in the 'country' on a London salary which we would not change.

She started going to Kent at the weekends when she met her boyfriend so wasn't commuting when she first started with us. I know she would like to stop working in London and move to Kent in another year or so, so she would probably only come to Hampshire with us for about 6 months (we move in Jan).

Sadly the commute is via London, but otherwise it is pretty simple.

My fingers are crossed that she is fine with it. I feel sick at the thought of having to tell her we are moving!

I think share with her what you have posted here shows you really want to keep her and she will respect that and prob be more likely to consider it

I cant see why she would accept and as you both know it may end in 6mths time why not draw up a new contract with a review in 3mths and a review in 6mths with a shorter notice period on both sides during those times if it isnt working for either of you.

Personally I wouldnt ( and have commuted from London - germany weekly -flew mon morn and back fri early eve when the family moved from London)

However I commuted In what used to be work time - 9am flight out etc and 2.30pm flight back. I also knew it was only temp for 9 months, and was completely re embursed for the inconvenience ( have own oh and family in London)

I would find someone more local if she isn't going to be staying around the area much

Assuming she drives, is providing a car and fuel for the trip home an option?