FB request from a previous charge, but I am no longer friendly with her mom

[stillhurtingbyit]

Hi,
I have name changed for this post. I had a bad experience in my past with a crazy host mom, and I posted about it in the AIBU forum. May be that was not the right place to post, because I got some negative replies... I am giving the link below - I am not sure if I am double posting it, I would just like to hear from a forum that's mainly frequented by au pairs and host families.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1496809-to-worry-about-this-situation-crazy-au-pair-mom-experience-in-the-past

Warning - it is a long post!

So primary question is - what should I do in this situation?

Related question - is it okay to 'friend' your previous charges on FB?

Thanks,
SHBI

I'm not with you....are you asking whether you should accept a friend request on facebook? Or have I totally got the wrong end of the stick?!

Ok sorry, I've just looked at the other post and realised this is what you mean.

If you are wondering whether to accept it then don't.

Forget and move on.

I have previous charges on my Facebook friends list but then I left on good terms.

I did have a couple of positions which didn't end so amicably. I would not accept requests from the children of those families. Upsetting time of my life, to be left in the past where it belongs, why would I want to give these people an invitation back into my life?

I read your other post as well. You are overthinking this - accept if you want to be in touch with the daughter, don't if you don't. You decide whoever you want to be "friends" with on FB.

I'd say it's fine in principle to have ex charges as friends as long as you don't post inappropriate stuff

But having read your other post I would just let it be.

i personally would add them. i do have children i looked after in the past on facebook. with some of themits the only way to know what they are doing, as someof them wouldnt even talk to me in real world.
but then, my facebook is quite simple, i do not post photos and do filter things i post. some of my posts are in my native language too, and dont think the children even bother to look at my facebook page. i chat to some of them sometimes.
i am that sort of person who likes to know how people are doing in their lives, i like to go to primary and high school get-togethers etc. i know some people dont like that or its not important to them at all. to me it is and the op is perhaps the same kind of person.
as to the english, i decoded the original post as a written by soemone very fluent with english but with a few expressions or wording hinting she is a foreigner. i know in some countries english is used as teaching langueage. perfectly understandable.