My childminder (looks after DS, age 2, 3 days a week) is awesome. She is everything I wanted when I looked for childcare, and is brilliant for DS in every way. However, she is in the process of going through a bit of a messy divorce, and whilst in so many ways I feel it is none of my business - it is starting to worry me a little bit - especially the impact on DS.
I live in quite a small community, and everyone seems to know everyone else's business, so her break up with her husband (who has always been really lovely towards me/DS) isn't exactly a local secret. In fact, it does seem that she is being quite harsh to him, and acting in quite a childish way. I happened to be walking the same way as him after drop-off this morning and he was quite upset by her behaviour. I know it was only his side of the story, and that their personal life really isn't any of my business, but it made me a bit worried.
She has two kids, one same age (more or less) as DS and the other a few years older - the youngest is by her current husband. They are all still living together (I think) and she is trying to get the house - but from all I have heard it's getting pretty messy and nasty there. I am sure they are trying hard to keep it away from the kids (both theirs and those who are child minded) but it's still really bothering me. DS keeps asking "where is my daddy?" and I think it's because he's hearing it from her kids.
My childminder hasn't mentioned anything directly to me at all - it's only come from her husband (he's spoken to me and DH about the break up). I feel bad asking her directly about it as it is not really my business. Or is it? I am currently 16 weeks pregnant (maybe I am being over emotional?!), so perhaps its a short term thing and I just need to ignore it - but DS is so happy there I wanted him to go back after mat leave.
Eek - what would you do?!