Help! Family comments have made my confidence slip...

[Titchyboomboom]

Hi all! At a family party at the weekend a comment was made by my sister in law that people may not appreciate toys which have been bought for my DD being used as 'Learning tools'... I did not say anything back, but this has made me feel wobbly as I am wondering whether I am upsetting people by using toys with minded children.

I do not have any toys down which are really special... hand made teddys, steif bears, personalised presents, delicate items... but I do have things like walkers, cog boards, puzzles, board books, flash cards etc downstairs.

My DD is 18 months as is the little girl I look after, so they play nicely with the toys as they should be played with and if I looked after older children I may reassess what I had out, but this is all what ifs....

Has anyone else experienced comments like this? What should I do? :-(

take no notice

a gift should not be given with strings attached as to useage

SIL is having a shit stir

Thank you so much :) Appreciated...

It just made me feel like I was doing something so terrible, but if I have all the toys upstairs, my DD will never get to play with anything! She knows they are hers, and shares so nicely, I think she deserves some credit bless her.

What a strange thing for your SIL to say.

If you were minding my child or I had given the gift, I would not mind either way

awww she sounds adorable

What a very odd thing for her to say.

I thought it was odd too... It all stemmed from a conversation about how th minding was going, and I mentioned toy rotation as a means of ensuring everything is played with as the living room is too small to have too many things downstairs.. and me anally labelling all the toy boxes with categories so I can plan activities etc

Nice to know the majority think it was odd and it wasn't just me

Don't worry just ignore her. It's a gift it's nice to share.

My mindees play with my dc's toys and my dc's play with toys bought for minding. I have never heard of anyone thinking this was a problem.

Your SIL is being unkind and a bit odd IMO

When my children were little I used to ask for the receipt when family bought them toys etc so I could claim the money against my tax I can just imagine what your DSIL would say about that.......................!!!!!

Ha ha ha can you imagine if I asked her!

What a prize bitch, imagine she is jealous, does she work?? Tell her you think it's important to reach children to share and doesn't she agree??

Ignore her.

Buy her a scarf for christmas and pin a little note to it:

"This is a "special" scarf. Not to be worn on Sundays, can't be lent out to any friends except on a full moon, can only be used if worn with the following colours...."