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How do I ask the CM to make sure DD's are comfortable in their uniforms after school?

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wibble73 · 31/05/2012 21:05

I'm not sure whether I'd risk looking stupid or offending the intelligence of my new CM. My youngest daughters will be going to hers straight from school until about 7.30pm - I won't be sending a change of clothes since they're happy enough playing in uniform after school, but would she automatically make sure that they're more comfortable by loosening their ties and top buttons like I always do, or do I ask her to do it?

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StealthPolarBear · 31/05/2012 21:06

tell them to do it and ask for help if needed?

ggirl · 31/05/2012 21:09

why don't you ask them to remove their ties after school to avoid them getting dirty..and yes to ask for help from cm

GnocchiNineDoors · 31/05/2012 21:16

How about saying something along the lines of "cm would you mind getting them to take off their ties at your just if they get their dinner down it i'll not get a chance to wash it ready for the next day" am sure she'll do the button then.

crunchbag · 31/05/2012 21:17

How old are they and is there any reason why they can't do it themselves?

And another yes to them asking cm for help

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wibble73 · 31/05/2012 21:17

For some reason they never want to take their ties off and also forget to loosen them so they don't spend the whole day in a constricting shirt collar - would the CM not do it automatically?

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MaureenMLove · 31/05/2012 21:21

If you don't want to actually have the conversation, why don't you shout back up the garden path as you leave them at the CM's, 'don't forget to take your tie off when you get in!'

Bletchley · 31/05/2012 21:24

If the kids aren't bothered, does it actually need doing?

SarkyWench · 31/05/2012 21:27

You are overthink this :)

Just tell her that the girls don't remember to take their ties off but that you prefer that they do.

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wibble73 · 31/05/2012 21:39

I'm not bothered about them taking them off, just so long as their top buttons are undone. Just wanted to make sure the CM wouldn't be offended or think it's a stupid thing to ask.

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eastnorth · 31/05/2012 22:07

Surely if they are school age they can do this themselves.

exoticfruits · 31/05/2012 22:26

Leave it to the DCs- I'm sure they can cope!

Eglu · 31/05/2012 22:28

If they don't want to take them off maybe they don't find it uncomfortable. Of course you can ask the cm but it seems you are being a bit pfb.

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wibble73 · 31/05/2012 22:32

It's not that they can't do it, it's just that they wouldn't remember unless reminded

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exoticfruits · 31/05/2012 22:33

That is their problem then! If they can't remember they are not bothered.

HSMM · 31/05/2012 22:34

If they don't remember they're probably not uncomfortable. You can ask the CM but don't worry.

crunchbag · 31/05/2012 22:44

I don't think a cm would do it automatically, unless a child looks uncomfortable, so if it is important to you you just have to ask her.

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wibble73 · 31/05/2012 23:07

I do worry, stupid I know. I just always think that they'll be more comfortable that way - maybe not?

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cory · 01/06/2012 09:36

It is an important part of growing up to learn to know when you are uncomfortable; if you always have adults running after you adjusting your clothes, you will miss out on a learning opportunity. I take it they are at least 4 years old and do not have learning difficulties. In which case I would start letting them become more responsible for their own comfort; it can only do them good.

Octaviapink · 01/06/2012 09:41

I really don't think you need to stress about this. A shirt collar isn't that constricting (quite a lot of men manage to wear their shirts buttoned up all day, after all) - I agree that if they're uncomfortable then they'll undo them themselves. Presumably they're old enough to undo their own buttons (ie older than about 3) so if they want to, they will. Let them get on with it.

frankiiesense · 01/06/2012 09:51

Wibble73 you're not stupid to worry, I think to put your mind at rest you need to send a change of clothes. Do you change when you get in? I think you're so stressed by this you'll say the wrong thing to the CM, just send the clothes I do. That way you can be sure that collars are off. I never relax in my work clothes so let your little ones be the same. school for school play for play is what I say.

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wibble73 · 01/06/2012 11:45

I know, I know, I pander to them. Maybe I should stop stressing so much about things

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exoticfruits · 01/06/2012 13:19

You should! They will never sort it out themselves if they don't get chance to be uncomfortable and find the solution.

Bletchley · 01/06/2012 15:10

If they aren't comfortable I'm sure they can sort it out themselves.

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wibble73 · 01/06/2012 19:00

Would you believe, the CM says that they're 'odd' for not wanting to take them off but just have them loose instead!

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LeeCoakley · 01/06/2012 19:18

I'm sure if they are comfortable at school buttoned up, another 2 or 3 hours at the CM's won't make any difference. And if they are uncomfortable then they will either do it themselves or ask the CM to! Stop fretting

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