Okay, so its a personal question but just wondering how others get round maintaining their healthy sexlife and not frightening off their lovely young au pair. we are very conscious that we want to look after her and not traumatise her by the mad sex maniacs who sleep in the room next door. things have definately been affected. Dh and i have quite physical sex (in a very healthy way) and we have taken to trying to be veeeerrry quiet and trying not to make any noise but its a bit staged IFKWIM. should our au pair accept that we are a married couple and if she overhears something she should put on some head phones?? she hasnt said anything (obviously she would be too shy) but i dont want her to be traumatised! she isnt interested in boys as such and has not been on any dates since she has been here....and she is the most stunning girl but is being very focused on her time here. is it an irrelevant question that should not have a second thought? WWYD??? thanks for reading and im genuinely interested...its not a post about MY sexlife as such just the impact it could be having on her? 