Advice please I use a babysitter for 3 hours a week once a week to look after ds1 - 3 yrs and ds2 - 8 months. I'm usually home during this time using it to get tricky jobs or admin done.
Babysitter is paid £10 per hr which I think is generous and she has up to now been fantastic. Some weeks when her oh is working she brings along her 1 yr old too but has always been able to cope ok ESP as my ds2 usually naps for half of the time she's here.
Today however was a bit of a disaster. Her child was teething and a bit grouchy so understandably she comforted her and gave her a lot of attention. All well and good but my ds1 had 3 toilet accidents which she missed and I ended up sorting. Ds1 also kept coming upstairs interrupting the job I was trying to do. Finally her dc started crying and needed mums full attention so I stopped what I was doing and ended up doing a jigsaw with ds1 while she sorted things out. I'm now feeling a bit gutted tbh - I really look forward to my 3 hrs a week but feel I got next to nothing done today. I'm also feeling guilty as she obviously found today a but of a struggle. Should I a) pay less on the weeks she brings her daughters? b) pay £10 phr but expect her to get on with it - not stopping what I'm doing to help or c) pay £10 phr and step in as necessary. I'm torn between feeling guilty and feeling pissed off.
At the end of the session I thanked her and paid her as usual