just hired this nanny, what shall i do...

[LadyLotty]

hmm, I find my new nanny a bit heavy handed with my DD (only 10 month). not very tolerant of her crying, doesn't really carry herand comfort her when she's clearly very upset, puts her in the pram with a thrust when she obviously would not be happy going in... all this is in front of me. So I've no confidence in leaving my baby alone with her. She has only been with us 1.5 weeks.

Shall I have a word with her about changing this behaviour? Or is this more of a personality/approach issue, something that can't really be fixed. Therefore, shall I look for another nanny?

I'm just thinking maybe underlying issue is she isn't really a 'natural' baby nanny, so perhaps not enjoying the job? Or am I just being unreasonable and looking for perfection? (I know i won't find someone who will love my children as much as me, but....)

If you're not happy then let her go now while you're still in the trial period. That is what a trial is for.

Go with your instinct.

Get rid and find a new one.

I have a nanny and while she's not as good as me she treats DS wonderfully! I knew straight away she'd be great. If there's any doubt then you cannot leave your child with this person.

I agree with you regarding if she is like that when you are around what is she like when you are not!

Did she have references? Did you speak to ex employers yourself?

I don't think you are ever going to feel comfortable leaving your dd with this nanny so if it was me I would look for a replacement. Go with your instinct.

You feel she is rough with your child. No brainer. Get rid!

I would look for another nanny. If she's too rough in front of you, how can you trust her?

Thanks all for your commenta! having thiught about it for a while, i think the root of the problem is she doesnt grnuinely enjoy being a nanny and so everything comes across as needing extra effort!
Hope I'm not being unreasonable to end the employment sooner rather than later... Would 2 wks (assumin i use her til the end of this wk) reasonably count as within normal probation period?

What does the contract say?

Awww - your poor lil one! I think it is absolutely ok to expect your Nanny to show affection and consideration for your baby, so it's a big non from moi! What is she thinking of?? Childcare's not a job to be in if you don't like children! Best for both of you that she moves on - and sharpish. It might just give her enough of a shock to make her re-think her career. Difficult for you to do but good news for little one!

Re probation period, I'd talk it through with her ... do you have a contract ? In the absence of one, paying her 1 week should really be ok as at the end of the day, she's dealing with your little one and she's not being caring at all - I wouldn't actually want her handling my child again. Good luck to you - v unpleasant. At the end of the day, she doesn't have any employment rights until 1 years service, and usually probation period is minimum notice - go for 1 week. Perfectly acceptable.

I would check your contract first of all. If you don't have one yet then 1 week is the minimum notice and next time make sure you agree and sign a contract before nanny starts with a clearly defined probation. This is highly unlikely to change IMO and the worst thing would be if she changes in front of you and carries on exactly as she is/worse when alone. For that reason, unless you desperately need childcare, I would pay in lieu of notice and crack on with finding a replacement.

When interviewing try to find someone whose childcare style matches yours as closely as possible in terms of carrying, comforting and dealing with conflict. Continuity is very important to children and it's one of luxuries of having a nanny that you can more of less control what 'style' of care your DD comes into contact with.

how awful for you and your baby! whatever reason she has for behaing that badly. there are lots of nannies who will handle your child with love. agree that one week notice is perfectly fine.

Check contract and then pay her off today. Don't let her near your baby again.

Agree, go with your instict. However dont beat yourself up about it too much. This nanny probably doesnt realise that it is a problem, therefore what she does in front of you is probably exactly the same as what she does on her own. What I am trying to say is, dont assume its worse when you are not there, so dont worry, just get rid asap!

She should only be on 1 weeks notice so dont worry. I wouldnt let her work her notice though as she will be p*ed off.

Good luck, don't worry
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She sounds very unsuitable :( have a chat with her about you have seen, listen to her views/reasoning then I would pay her today for the week and say that her ethos and yours are worlds apart and she will be happier with a family that shares her views.

I am a nanny I love being a nanny I am looking for a position at the moment
your nanny does not sound verry caring to your little baby I hope you do not mind me saying this hope you can sort it out soon good luck she needs to be more gentle.

Replace her asap. I'm not a baby nanny in the slightest but would never be intolerant of an under one :(

what do you do?
Send her packing she sounds awful

It's a learning experience. You hired the wrong nanny and now you're one step ahead of where you were before you hired her because you know, a little better, what you're looking for. Fired. No harm done & don't be squeamish about firing her - you're in charge of making sure your child is in safe hands and this one just doesn't cut it. Start over.

omg, do get rid of her, sounds like she could do harm, and don't write a good reference. That is alarming behaviour if i may say so. I was a sole charge nneb nanny to the same family for 8years and the children never went short of love and affection from me and though of course i couldn't love them as much as their parents, i wasn't much behind! Your poor baby.