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childminders-how about your husbands?

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 17:56

my husband seems pretty supportive of me becoming a childminder(if i decide to do it).but i am not sure how is going to be.my husband is a bar manager so he works in the evenings and he is at home almost all day.what would ofsted say about him being at home while kids are there and i don't know if he will like it.what about your partners?how do they feel about it?

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 17:58

he loves kids and he is fond of the idea but i am still not sure

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madmarchhare · 16/02/2006 17:58

I cant answer your questions, but I have often wondered the same about partners being in the home at the same time as the kids.Mmm.

RTKangaMummy · 16/02/2006 18:02

Have you got children?

HellyBelly · 16/02/2006 18:03

My dh is currently out of work and lives in our bedroom when he's not assisting. This is more so he can look for a job, do other work in peace as we have a small house and make a lot of noise downstairs!!

Parents need to be made aware of this when agreeing to have you as their childminder but so far, none of mine have minded whether he's here or not.

My dh is supportive of my childminding but does sometimes get fed up with how much time I spend working i.e. earliest mindee (new one) 6.45am start, last mindee out at 6.30pm then ds to bed, paperwork, cleaning, our own dinner and some website work = night gone! It just frustrates him but apart from that, he is fine! (well, think he's a bit annoyed about the amount of toys and equipment I've been making him get from the loft for new baby mindee - it's taking over our lounge!)

nannynick · 16/02/2006 18:06

Ofsted won't object to him being at home - though he will of course he will need to have all the usual clearance done (like any other over 16 year old in your household).

If he's needing to sleep during the day at all, then it could be an issue - may not get much sleep depending on how rowdy the children are! If he will just be around, then it could be very handy - if he needs to get some space, he can always volunteer to go shopping for you

HellyBelly · 16/02/2006 18:07

Good point - mine does the shopping at the mo

ivet83 · 16/02/2006 18:11

to RTkangaMummy-i have an 8 month old daughter.

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 18:14

mmmm i like the shopping bit .he could come in handy.anyway my husband sleeps very deep even if there is an earthquake he wouldn't know

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 18:15

i am his alarm clock in the morning doesn't hear anything

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ThePrisoner · 16/02/2006 19:13

My dh is extremely supportive of my childminding work, despite the fact that it probably dominates a lot of my life/home. It is extremely obvious that there must be small children in the house (I'm awash with buggies, high chairs, toys, and all the associated paperwork, etc.) and, no matter how much clearing up I do on Friday night, it is still pretty much "in your face". Our own children are now adults (in age, perhaps not in sanity), so it is so much more noticeable. My dh also works from home on occasions.

He is brilliant with the children if he's around (making tea), knows all of the children and their parents, and is also my assistant on odd occasions.

He accepts that I love doing this as a job, I make good money (always useful!!), and so he puts up with the downside stuff.

I know an ex-childminder whose dh was not supportive at all (was actively anti) - he would leave the house before any mindees arrived, and have breakfast elsewhere, and wouldn't come back until the last mindee had gone home. She had to ensure that all traces of other children were "hidden away".

That is an extreme, but it has to be said that I think it would be really difficult to successfully childmind well without family support.

bigisbeatifulwasoldandfat · 16/02/2006 19:19

mine husband did not really understand quite how involved it all was in the beginning but 3 years later he has got use to it. the children all love him and he is registered to watch them if im doing an after school run etc....not that he in from work that often at that time but it helps when he is. he gets on with all the parents and he usually cooks the dinner for us in the evening. we share the housework at the weekend but not the ironing the only thing that really annoys him is my addiction to this site now ive found it and the internet as a whole.....i tell him its all for the business but he isn't always convinced. its no good if you don't have a supportive partner and children for that matter, after all they are all going to there when the mindees are there at some point.

ivet83 · 16/02/2006 19:44

i guess this is really important.i currently live in a flat but we are not alone-with other people relatives.i am pushing him to move and get our own house but we don't have money for deposit and already have a loan-not big one but....i won't be able to childmind where i live now and i was thinking that if i do the course in advance and whenever we move i will apply to register.but that might not be soon and then do i have to renew the certificate or not?sorry long one

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badgerhead · 16/02/2006 20:10

I know of childminders who live in flats, so unless there is some kind of restriction in the lease or tenancy agreement you should be able to mind ok. (help you save your deposit for a house lol) It might be worthwhile registering your dh as an assistant if he is interested.

ivet83 · 16/02/2006 20:20

unfortunately that's not it.this is a housing assosiation flat and one of the relatives has a mental illness.so it's impossible to do it here.how could i make some money help my husband repay the loan(10 000)?then we can have money for deposit and move.it's so frustrating when you are at home and u can't help with the financies,isn't it?

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HappyMumof2 · 16/02/2006 20:32

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 20:36

so are you saying that i can't do the course in advance but just 3 months before i start registering?why is that?any suggestions how to raise up money while i stay at home?

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HappyMumof2 · 16/02/2006 20:52

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 20:58

well i don't know how this is possible with my 8 month old daughter.who's gonna look after her

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HappyMumof2 · 16/02/2006 20:59

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 21:08

are u for real? people do that? sorry i didn't know is possible.how do i go about finding this kind of job?

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HappyMumof2 · 16/02/2006 21:14

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ivet83 · 16/02/2006 21:18

thanks happymumof2 it was helpfull

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HappyMumof2 · 16/02/2006 21:19

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