childminder is cross?

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My childmindr is cross as I told hr that she is feeding bland food to my child coz my child is sick after eating that food.....She is used to eating food which is tasty( which includes little salt & mild spices) Hv i done anything wrong?

really, your dc is sick eating 'bland' food? Maybe you need to send your own food to the CM?

what exactly is the cm feeding your child that is so offensive?

Bland food doesn't make a child sick. Telling someone that their food makes your child sick is pretty rude.

Your child is physically sick after eating food which they think is bland? Wow.

Sounds like your CM is offended by you basically calling her a shit cook.

Young children's food is unlikely to contain many spices - pepper, ginger, some mild herbs. Salt is often reduced a lot for children's food, so if your childminder is making food from scratch it is unlikely to contain much salt. Older children will be a bit more adventurous but even so many won't try food that looks different, smells different, tastes different.

I think what you may be trying to say is that your child's diet at home is different to that at your childminders. That should be fine, no one wants to be eating the same things every day.

Your childminder needs to prepare food which ALL the children in their care will eat and as you are no doubt aware, children can be rather fussy. Thus the menu may well be designed such that it appeals to all the children, rather than an individual child.

Does your childminder provide a menu, food diary or anything like that so you know what sort of food your child is being offered?

If your child is frequently being sick after eating certain things, is it perhaps an intolerance to an ingredient?

Last week I made a very mild curry using onion, paprika and coconut milk. Guess what - the children refused it. Some children just don't like things that are different, new, strange colour, contain a spice.

You've been really rude accusing your childminder that her cooking made your child ill. What's not to say your child had a tummy bug?

I think you need to apologise and provide your own food before you find yourself without child care.

Is this a reverse AIBU?

of corse it was a rude thing to say and obviously untrue (that bland food makes a child sick ) I would not want to work for someone so rude/odd.

'I would not want to work for someone so rude/odd.'

Who are you talking about? The childminder is self employed, not employed by the OP.

And yes, it is rude to say this... is there a cultural difference etc.??? Worth chatting to the childminder about for sure.. but bland food itself will NOT make your child sick.. perhaps an ingredient in said food... but TALK to the childminder. If not happy still, send your own food in.

I am seriously hoping there is some sort of a language barrier and you are not as rude as it has come across in your OP.
Of course your CM is cross.
As ever, NannyNick's post is excellent and explained everything clearly for you.

I think I would be upset if that was said to me. Its been said now, where do you go from here?

We all have different taste buds. I have a multicutural setting and our taste buds are very differerent.

My orgianal parents provide all meals, the newer intake have snacks provided.

If you are not happy with the type of food provided then you need to provide them yourself. You have to remember that the cm has to deal with other chidren too.

I like food with spices etc (but not too much) I am not use to bland food myself. Cultures vary. I would not really give the kids I am cooking for my spicy food.

Put yurself in the cm shoes and imagine if someone said that to you.

I would apologise and ask if you could provide food from home that your child is use to.

Also it could be that she is providing the food which she is also cooking for her own family.

One last thing. If someone gave me bland food it would not make me sick. Its snot usualy how I like my food.

nannynick - you are soooooo lovely! I wish I had your patience and understanding!

As nannynick says, your child might have an intolerance to some of the food she is eating at the childminders. This is not the childminder's fault. It's sad that your childminder is cross with you because you will need to work with her to find out what is making your child sick.

For example, it is fairly common for young children to have bad reactions to cow's milk - does your child eat cheese and yoghurt at home or just at the childminders? Wheat is another food that makes some children sick. If you eat mostly rice dishes at home, and your child is eating bread and pasta with the childminder, then maybe the wheat in the bread and pasta could be making her sick.

Does your childminder write down what your daughter has eaten each day.