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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Some parents are just plain rude

16 replies

Mum2Luke · 22/04/2012 21:05

I cannot believe this, a parent of whose child I was minding has phoned to say they want me to mind her again after saying they didn't need me, why didn't the Mother come to me in the playground on Friday instead of jumping this on me on a Sunday evening? Do they think us Childminders are just there to drop and pick up when they feel like it?

The Mother is a student at a local college and they (the college) pay her childcare fees, I was supposed to have put an invoice in last week so now am going to miss out on being paid.

I hope they don't ring tonight as I'm not really in a good mood about this. I could have jacked cming in or taken on new children to take her place.

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 22/04/2012 22:37

I would tell her no if it doesn't suit you or is too short notice and would certainly tell her no if you're not going to get paid for it. It doesn't seem very fair that you have to miss out on pay.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 22/04/2012 22:40

Calm down lovely. If you want to take her on say 'yes' if you don't say 'no'. It is your choice, not theirs :)

If your DS is actually called Luke I'd get this thread pulled too, unless you don't mind the parents reading it and know it's you!

dwpanxt · 22/04/2012 22:45

No way should you accept the child if payment is not likely. Short notice acceptance should be limited to domestic emergencies and not parents who cant be bothered to actually speak to you .

minderjinx · 23/04/2012 06:29

I would probably say "Okay just this time, but you are obviously going to have to pay cash as you have not given me enough notice to get paid by the college"

Octaviapink · 23/04/2012 07:41

Agree with minderjinx. Also a surprising number of parents treat their CM as something they can just 'book' as and when they please. I've had a client tell me on a Thursday that she 'would need me to babysit on Saturday night' regardless of the fact that I most certainly do not do weekends and had no intention of having my Saturday evening disrupted.

mopbucket · 23/04/2012 10:53

I had a parent text me last night to say they dont need me anymore had the child 4 yrs and all i get is a text

BornToShopForcedToWork · 23/04/2012 12:18

That is absolutely outrageous, after four years??? Unbelievable!

Theas18 · 23/04/2012 12:22

Hell mopbucket that is terrible. i know its a business arrangement but really- you've parented that child part time for 4yrs?

To the op. Say yes or no as suits you but remember if it's "Yes" thats "yes if I get paid no more than (what ever the deal is with college) in arrears I cannot afort to take her for free for weeks before I get paid"

mopbucket · 23/04/2012 12:37

I know child now 9
She said she would pay for next 2 wks but its not the point

thebody · 23/04/2012 15:17

Mopbucket, disgracefully rude to you. Why only paying u 2 weeks? Isn't your notice 4??

Mumtoluke. Yes bloody annoying, get cash for minding already done and decide if u want to carry on with this parent. Your choice

Octaviapink how funny some parents are, hope you laughed and told her actually no u do have a life!!

mopbucket · 23/04/2012 16:31

Before and after school children are only 2 wks notice

thebody · 23/04/2012 17:16

Gotcha mop, how rude though and sending just a text, especially after 4 years. Tbh it shows how little she values her own child's happiness and stability.

Tanith · 23/04/2012 19:01

One of my parents once gave me notice as a footnote at the bottom of the Congratulations card she'd sent me when my DD was born. My Network co-ordinator was here when it arrived and she couldn't believe her eyes!

Mum2Luke, I would not be taking on this mum again.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 23/04/2012 19:17

mopbucket - that's really sad, for both you and the child :( Some parents really just don't have a clue.

Tanith - same for you, sad & mad isn't it.

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Mum2Luke · 10/05/2012 15:39

I did get paid in the end, I told the college I would not be minding this child if I wasn't. I've only got her till the end of June.

Mopbucket - that is terrible, dropping you by text after 4 yrs? They could have at least bought you a thank you present to show appreciation even if it was a bottle of wine.

I have now put adverts in local sops which will still have postcards in - I await the flood of calls ...

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LingDiLong · 10/05/2012 15:56

Well I'm glad it all ended well. And mopbucket, that is awful after 4 years.

I'm assuming there's some backstory to the OP though because I have to say, I'm always happy to be asked to do last minute stuff. I actually do see myself as somone they can book last minute or as and when they please - IF I'm available of course. I don't really see it as rude, the parents are the only ones putting themselves in an awkward position as I might say no! And I certainly would have made the potential payment problem an issue for the parents not myself.

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