Hi - Go gently on me, fellow mums netters! I've read a lot of (helpful) threads over the last couple of years but this is the first bit of help I've really needed. My 20 month old ds has a fantastic childminder. I work from home so he is only with her from 9.30-12.30 in the mornings, with one day a week until 5.30pm. He's a very affectionate and loving boy, happy and confident and we have a great time together. He's had the childminder for 3 months and I think she's great - very active, very kind, has a dd of her own and never has more than 4 kids at any one time, and often only two. But the children she minds call her 'mummy'. The first time she told me about it I thought it was because one of the girls she looked after, she'd had since she was 4 months old for over a year. And as her own daughter is often around, the other children hear her being called mummy. So I thought I had better just get over it. But just now, I collected my boy and we all walked down the road together. She was telling me that she'd been playing a game with him - what's your name? (And he says his name.) What's the baby's name? (And my ds says the baby's name.) Then she said: "I asked him, 'What's my name? And he said mummy.' And she smiled proudly. I was a bit gobsmacked. Then, to really drive the point home, she did it all again with him, in front of me.
She really is great, and I don't want to rock my son's world by finding someone else. Nor do I want to engage in some sort of competitive game with my son's affections. I'm completely comfortable that he loves me and knows I love him. But I am deeply unsettled by what happened this morning. Do I just need to get over myself? Or should I say something? Help, please!
Thank you.