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Negative childminder who treats kids badly??

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chwedl · 08/03/2012 21:59

Hi there,

I've been having problems with my childminder that are escalating rapidly and I'd like some advice. I'm doubting sanity and wondering if I'm being too sensitive/picky?? Any advice will be gladly accepted.

problem 1. I give my childminder a packed lunch for my child and she only gives her a sandwich and banana every day. If I put anything else in (yoghurt, breadsticks, dried fruit etc) it just comes back in her bag. So from half 8 'til half 5 my DD only gets a sandwich and banana, no snacks, nothing. She gets a drink bottle from me in the morning and only half is drunk (half a toddler sized bottle is not enough for the whole day in my opinion).

Problem 2. My DD has been out of nappies for over 6 months, yet twice I've found that she puts a nappy on her for trips/daytime naps. My thinking is that she's too lazy to keep an eye on her.

Problem 3. They don't do anything other than play in the garden or in the playroom with toys. They're not given any activities, not even a pencil and paper.

Problem 4. My childminder often leaves them in the playroom alone to do her paperwork, ironing, change beds, Facebook, internet etc.

Problem 5. She is stern to the point that my daughter turns from being a confident happy girl to being withdrawn and nervous when she's around her. I've seen myself how stern she can be over little things, such as not taking coat off first time.

I've looked for childcare elsewhere in my area but childminders are like gold dust!! I have another childminder lined up for 3 months away, I don't know what to do in the meantime. My family work so they can't help much in the meantime and I can't bear the thought of my little one putting up with this woman for 3 months.

Am I being unreasonable?

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Tryharder · 11/03/2012 01:05

Oh don't leave your little girl there for the 2 weeks. You have just handed in your notice and if this woman gets spot checked, she might add 2 and 2 together and suss out that you are the one who complained. And she sounds unprofessional enough to then take it out on your daughter.

You need to ask your boss for compassionate or special leave from work. Or get yourself down to the Doctors, cry, and get 2 weeks signed off with depression. I would never, ever suggest anything like that normally but you cannot leave her there.

south345 · 11/03/2012 05:04

Could your new childminder babysit for you at your house til paperwork is through? Might cost a bit more but may be worth it short term. when I started I had a mindee lined up (it was a neighbour) so rather than loose him I looked after him
Free for a couple of days rather than him go to another childminder, that way I wasn't breaking any rules.

chwedl · 11/03/2012 11:04

Thanks guys, the CSSIW did suggest that she could mind my girl from home but the new childminder works on a casual basis at the moment and will do so until she officially starts. I have thought about going to the docs and asking for a sicknote but I feel so guilty doing so. I feel guilty for taking my little lady to the childminders and feel guilty for having to take time off work, AARRGGHH!!. I've worked things out so that she will only have to go on a Wednesday and Thursday for both weeks now so it will be 4 days in total that she'll go. I'll ask my boss if he could possibly let me have some leeway with these days. Thanks for all your support guys, I really mean that.

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